How to Talk to Cupid

What signals are you giving your mate?

Aphrodite reasoning with CupidHit by Cupid's arrow! It feels so good that you might seek a permanent bond, convinced that passion will keep you both quivering with ecstasy for a lifetime. Yet Cupid is a sneaky dude, or rather the biological agenda he personifies does not, in fact, promote enduring love without a little tweaking.

Brain activity of porn addicts similar to drug addicts

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Cambridge scansAs many of you know, the massive experiment of guys giving up porn to heal their ED, social anxiety, porn-induced sexual fetishes, etc. had its roots, in part, on this forum. Last year, Cambridge University addiction neuroscientists, collaborating with a Yale neuroscience addiction expert, finally took a close look at the brains of young men complaining of severe porn-related symptoms.

Why Stop Orgasm Research at Climax?

synapse[Huffington Post] Mary Roach's irreverent orgasm trivia reminds us that researchers, like porn makers, tend to snap their notebooks shut right after the money shot. Yet some of the most intriguing findings about orgasm may lie beyond its brief fireworks. Post-O data could one day help solve all kinds of mysteries, such as why lovers' libidos often go out of sync -- especially after those initial "honeymoon poppers" wear off.

Do Pair Bonders Need Different Sex Advice?

Are we training for sprints or marathons?

Fork in the roadWhat if the ideal sexual behavior for those who want to maintain a long-term pair bond is not the same as for those who prefer to change partners frequently? Perhaps there should be two norms for the sexually active—depending upon whether they wish to sustain a pair bond, or engage in sex without forming one.

Oxytocin leads to monogamy: Hormone stimulates the brain reward system

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How is the bond between people in love maintained? Scientists at the Bonn University Medical Center have discovered a biological mechanism that could explain the attraction between loving couples: If oxytocin is administered to men and if they are shown pictures of their partner, the bonding hormone stimulates the reward center in the brain, increasing the attractiveness of the partner, and strengthening monogamy.

Sacred Sex,: Meditation, Purification & Bathing the Soul. The Indus Valley Civilization

Sacred Sex,: Meditation, Purification & Bathing the Soul. The Indus Valley CivilizationThis book, by Leigh Martin, has two parts. The first part is a fictional account of a traveller who visits a village that is still influenced by the ancient Indus Valley Civilization (IVC). It includes a sacred sex encounter. (Excerpt below)

The second part is a scholarly and practical account of IVC practices and wisdom. Illustrated with photographs and line drawings, it describes 14 healthy practices that reach into every corner of life; from meditation to massage, from diet to detox, from philosophy to laughter and from sacred sex to sunshine.

What was the IVC? According to Martin, the IVC was a non-violent egalitarian society, which was also technically advanced. It flourished for a thousand years without weapons or war with neighbours (from 2900 BC to 1900 BC). It is a lesson and a challenge to all modern societies who believe they are “advanced,” yet are riven by internal strife and repeatedly at war.

Epic Study On What Men Need To Live A Happy Life

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Harvard has just released a new book about a 75-year longitudinal study, which tracked 268 undergraduates. The study’s goal was to determine what factors contribute most strongly to human flourishing. The results suggest that humanity today is pretty far off course. Researchers found that addiction caused the most chaos, illness and unhappiness. They also found that warm relationships with parents and mates were associated with more earning power and happier lives.

I’ll Have What She’s Thinking (New York Times)

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bran scanSCIENCE has looked into some strange things over the centuries — reports of gargantuan sea monsters, purported images of Jesus, sightings of alien spaceships and so on. When I first heard of spontaneous orgasm, while researching a book on yoga, including its libidinal cousin, tantra, I figured it was more allegory than reality and in any event would prove beyond the reach of even the boldest investigators.

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