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Submitted by emerson on

OMG this forum has been so flat and dead. Wake up y'all.

So I've been doing some health things that shall remain nameless and having extraordinary feelings and erections. Result is that I have come twice in a week. Not what I really enjoy. 

I could have stopped it both times but I suppose it's really about getting a little too worked up.

Anyway, I want to say HI and hopefully spark some conversation here, on this most treasured place.

New rules for heart health revealed with instructions to ‘have MORE sex’ top of the list

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Submitted by Marnia on

HEART DISEASE is the biggest killer in the UK, but positive steps are being made towards reducing the number of deaths it causes.

Since the introduction of the smoking ban in 2007, for example, heart attacks have fallen by 40 per cent. But stopping smoking is not the only lifestyle change that can positively impact on heart health and it is never too early to make changes -  a sentiment shared by Johannes Hinrich von Borstel, prospective cardiologist and a former paramedic in his new book Heart: The Inside Story of Our Body’s Most Important Organ.

"When an Orgasm Can Destroy Your Life"

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Submitted by Marnia on

For men with the rare disorder Post-Orgasmic Illness Syndrome, orgasms can lead to days of physical and psychological misery

Hiding errant boners during surprise Game of Thrones sex scenes is a familiar scenario for many men; for David,* though, the consequences of arousal are more consequential than embarrassment.

Here goes again... (WARNING FOR SINGLE GUYS - THIS CONTAINS TRIGGERS!)

Submitted by Proverbs31.30 on

Hi there! It’s been quite a while that I participated in this forum. Part of the reason is that, for most of the past couple years, I lived at a Christian center in the US, and the internet connection there filters out this website.

Explaining Karezza to a date or partner

Submitted by Karezza Korner on

(emerson) I know this is difficult, but it's a romantic fantasy that people are going to "get" this up front. However, once you practice this sex with them, even if they are not, the magic happens. This is my preferred recommendation these days. Open mindedness happens when you are the example. Expecting to find someone already into this is like impossible. But someone receptive...well that's different.
I was watching a show from the UK called Fleabag, episode 2, and it actually addresses Karezza and lovemaking versus "fucking"...first time I've seen someone in a show get this right and address the issue. Point is, though, that you first meet someone, then you have sex, and you don't orgasm, and they get intrigued, and things evolve. That's how I see it. Anything else is doomed.

The worst way to explain it to a man is to say "it's like sex but you don't have an orgasm." Who wants that???? I also don't like the "affectionate gentle intercourse" angle, as that never seemed appealing when I was on the dopamine train. But if you say "you prolong sex, have lots of sexual intercourse, and delay your ejaculation for a long time and sometimes don't even bother ejaculating so you are always ready...and you get this amazing sensitivity and pleasure throughout your whole body" that can sell guys. Or at least the right guys.

Pretty much pointless, in my experience

Submitted by celebriticat on

In a way, I wish I'd never learned of Karezza. It's basically made it so that I'm not interested in a partnership unless it includes this kind of connection. That's not a bad thing. It's just that it renders the information useless to me, unless you consider that it's kept me from the heartbreak of another failed relationship.

I hoped to at least be able to raise awareness of the practice to enhance the partnerships of others, but no one wants to hear about it, in my experience.

May the rest of you have better luck.

Technology and Its Effect on Your Relationship

Submitted by Maso on

My girlfriend has a subscription to "Psychology Today" magazine, appropriate for a therapist. Even before we lived together I would look at her copy of the magazine and read an article here or there—really annoys her when I start reading it before she gets a chance to. I have suggested that maybe she needs therapy to work on that annoyance. She suggested that maybe I needed to be less of a smartass.

Reboot First 24 Hours

Submitted by luke350 on

So it's been awhile since I've posted on this site. In the three years since I last blogged I've had a lot of victory over masturbation and the inevitable fallout. In late 2013/2014 I went for 5 months without bringing myself to ejaculation. It was a long hard road and since then I'll occasionally go for 2-3 month dry spells. I was also in a relationship where I experienced the power of affectionate touch. Such peace and contentment....and the incredible sleep I would have after I would cuddle with my sweetheart.

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