I have learned even better that a voice always says, "you should come", and when I'm inside her, I think, there is the voice, just as I expected to hear. And I pay no attention to the man behind the curtain and I avoid coming.
Except when I don't, but then I pay for it.
I found some things that increase libido and erections this year which I've been practicing, and all is good.
As I said a year ago, nothing changed wrt my wife and her low drive but I finally stopped caring.