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Freeing Women in 'Sexual Lockdown'

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By Donna Philippe, Kevin's wife

Karezza style lovemaking, relaxed gentle intercourse without the goal of climax, is a sumptuous feast to be consumed one sensual taste at a time. But a woman who is in sexual “lockdown” (the inability to feel sexual desire and sustained arousal) can’t seem to take the first awakening step on this journey. I was one of the millions of women in this locked-down condition. Until now.

My marriage to my second husband brought a spark of light back into my soul and gave me new hope for love. He found me twenty years ago, and true to the knight that he is, rescued me, carried me off and made me his bride. He still calls me his “bride” to this day. He helped me to laugh and smile again. We adored each other from the first moment we met and became best friends and soul mates for life.We started out having really hot, passionate sex, but after a few years we began to have problems. We were drifting apart, experiencing conflict and the sex was becoming less and less satisfying. We couldn’t figure out what went wrong or how to fix it.

Karezza Explored

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by L. Kevin & Donna Johnson, Darryl Keil and Sheree Swanson (Summer, 2012)

Note: This is a follow up article on the previous one entitled Karezza in Four Easy Steps. Here we will discuss specific details on how to move away from conventional mating sex toward the practice of Karezza. Commonly, some men feel that this form of sexual intercourse is “too boring and unexciting”, therefore, we’ll offer some insights based on our own personal experiences and explain why Karezza offers tremendous fulfillment and satisfaction.

The Life Juice

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Karezza for us has become a journey along an ever-widening, deep road into the great wilderness of the human heart. All I can say is that the past year and a half has been the most incredible journey of my life. At first we just wanted to figure out how to avoid the disconnect between us, now it’s turned into a genuine path of rediscovery about what it means to be fully human, full alive.

Karezza in Four Easy Steps (for men)

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by L. Kevin Johnson

Note: This article is written specifically for men. But it is helpful for women to understand what a man needs to accomplish in order for them both to experience mutual, sexual harmony. Therefore it is recommended that couples work on the process together. It takes time to wean off the “mating sex” program and regularly engage in bonding behaviors, such as Karezza, with lots of cuddling in-between, holding hands, affectionate hugs, etc., before our brains start to rewire and build receptors that will enable us to experience the enjoyable effects of oxytocin, the “love hormone.”