I am an old member returning. I was in a long term marriage that terminated about 3yrs ago and am in a new relationship of 2months. He practices continence. He has asked me to abstain. I am wondering what are the benefits of this for a woman and how they differ from male continence. I seem to be getting increasingly horny each time we have penetrative sex. The last two times he has unexpectedly ejaculated and I feel his withdrawal from me or lack of desire for making love with me due to ejaculating. I believe this sensitivity comes from not having an orgasm. I actually would like to have a vaginal orgasm yet this hasn't happened. My desire for orgasm is to satiate my desire for penetration that doesn't seem to be satisfied. Is there another way to deal with this horniness? Do you have a sublimation practice. I am respecting that my partner doesn't want me to orgasm by self pleasuring during penetrative sex or on my own which I am honoring yet this seems to be increasing my desire/need or wanting. What can I do to honor him and transform this energy so I am not so demanding for an orgasm.