Have you read "Cheap Sex" by Regnerus?

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I think everyone on this forum would find it fascinating reading. Here's my review from Amazon:

“Cheap Sex” is a clear-eyed assessment of sexual activity, mating and bonding in US culture. Well written, well edited and well grounded in both quantitative and qualitative research, this book expertly and compassionately lays out the less obvious (and largely unintended) effects of reproductive freedom and technologically enhanced “cheap sex.” A recurring theme in the book is that more and hotter orgasms with more partners are paradoxically associated with increasing loneliness across the population.

Karezza Is The Orgasm-Free Way To Improve Your Sex Life (Women's Health)

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“People have sex like rabbits. Karezza is more like having sex like a tortoise.”

Whether it’s a quickie in the closet while the kids sleep, a brief bang in the bathroom in between teeth-brushing and face-washing, or a three-minute romp in the sack before the snoring strikes, you're probably good at “efficient” sex.

Karezza sex is the key to a passionate love life. Find out what it's all about

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Here's the newest thing everyone's buzzing about: Karezza sex! What exactly is this and how will it spice up your sex life? Read on!

The rules are laid out pretty loud and clear — When it comes to sex, having orgasms is the ultimate goal every couple has. And that is the shortcoming (pun intended) of the way we perceive sex. Much like life, sex isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

Improvements in gender equality and decades of sex ed have not made women more orgasmic

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Interesting new study finds that - contrary to the sexology advice of the last decades - more masturbation and more partners do not increase women's ability to orgasm during partnered sex. How much do sexologists really understand about human sexuality/orgasm/sexual pleasure and their connections with wellbeing?

Explaining Karezza to a date or partner

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(emerson) I know this is difficult, but it's a romantic fantasy that people are going to "get" this up front. However, once you practice this sex with them, even if they are not, the magic happens. This is my preferred recommendation these days. Open mindedness happens when you are the example. Expecting to find someone already into this is like impossible. But someone receptive...well that's different.
I was watching a show from the UK called Fleabag, episode 2, and it actually addresses Karezza and lovemaking versus "fucking"...first time I've seen someone in a show get this right and address the issue. Point is, though, that you first meet someone, then you have sex, and you don't orgasm, and they get intrigued, and things evolve. That's how I see it. Anything else is doomed.

The worst way to explain it to a man is to say "it's like sex but you don't have an orgasm." Who wants that???? I also don't like the "affectionate gentle intercourse" angle, as that never seemed appealing when I was on the dopamine train. But if you say "you prolong sex, have lots of sexual intercourse, and delay your ejaculation for a long time and sometimes don't even bother ejaculating so you are always ready...and you get this amazing sensitivity and pleasure throughout your whole body" that can sell guys. Or at least the right guys.

Excerpt from paper entitled "Meditation and Sex"

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A forum member shared this 2010 item with me. It's written by a Belgian named Philppe De Coster. Here's an excerpt, with his take on karezza:

Meditative Sex

Another way of experiencing spirituality in sex is by focusing on feeling in harmony and united with your partner on different energy levels. This is like a sexual meditation.

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