[Excerpt from Karezza: transformation through sex by Eroca Gabriel (in press)]
PAIN DURING SEX
The “Sex In America” survey estimates that sexual pain afflicts 20 percent of American women—15 percent before menopausal, 33 percent after. Other research estimates are as high as 40% of women have suffered it at some point for varying durations.
Chimp males go for older females, who are more likely to conceive in promiscuous situations. Human male preference for women with a longer fertile window ahead of them may be related to human male tendency to pair-bond.
We've been going along quite well using lube. I was using MCT oil, but it irritated my penis. Then we moved to butter but I think my penis developed some irritation that is still going on and we can't use any lube at all that is oil-based.
I'm getting aloe vera gel today and will try that.
Any ideas are welcomed!
I'm updating to say that things are going really well in our 18-year relationship. Patience and communication are paying off, after about five years of me being interested in karezza and him not being "there" yet.
My title refers to Penelope and Odysseus' bed, built on the stump of an olive tree, which symbolizes peace. How's that for peace between the sheets?!
I would add..."unless they choose to foil their mating program by making a major change in the bedroom."
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Study excerpt:
https://www.takimag.com/article/you-people-need-to-get-nekkid/print
Entertaining but has some truth to it
2) “Seventeen percent of Americans ages 18 to 29 now believe that a man inviting a woman out for a drink ‘always’ or ‘usually’ constitutes sexual harassment.” (The article didn’t offer any stats for women asking men, men asking men, or women asking women.)