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How to recover from a sexless marriage?

Submitted by James Bonding on

Several weeks ago I found iliasm.org (I Live In A Sexless Marriage), an active forum with about 1200 members, 40% women and 60% men, who are not getting enough sex in their marriages. Their definition of "sexless marriage" is one in which there is sex less than 10 times per year.

Only about 5 of the members have reported recovering from the sexless marriage status by increasing the sex frequency to an acceptable level. The usual advice is "get a divorce" or "outsource" (find a Friend With Benefits).

Can Vibrators Cause "Dead Vagina Syndrome"?

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Submitted by Marnia on

Sex therapists are often quick to insist that vibrator use is just great for women. However, there's growing anecdotal evidence that vibrators are actually "supernormal stimuli," which cannot be matched by human partners. For some users, this spells a decline in sexual responsiveness and pleasure during intercourse with a partner.

coming once in awhile and other reflections on Karezza

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Submitted by emerson on

It's been for me about 6 or so years that my wife and I have been practicing Karezza and I have some thoughts I want to share with you.

I have been glorying in approaching the limits and feeling exquisite whole body pleasure in more of an active high energy form of Karezza. 

On the spectrum of let's say left/right, with left being stillness and just connection, and right being out-and-out sex almost to orgasm but not quite, I am more on the right side.

It's official - "Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder" is now in the World Health Org's diagnostic manual

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Submitted by Marnia on

CSBD is an umbrella term that can be used to diagnose people struggling with porn addiction and sex addiction.

The ICD-11 is the most recent edition of the WHO's International Classification of Diseases, used by doctors worldwide. No doubt the DSM-5 (the mental health manual often promoted/used in the States...because the APA makes money from holding its copyright) will have to follow suit...eventually.

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