Dear gentle souls stumbling on this post:
Decades of obsession with orgasm, pushed around by hormonal urges (that is what they felt like), and repeated struggles with partners who either didn't meet my voracious appetite (sexual needs/urges) or, somehow failed my criteria to trigger arousal and sexual desire.................here I am, posting this at age 65, happy about sharing with a community of folks who might be able to relate.
I think everyone on this forum would find it fascinating reading. Here's my review from Amazon:
“Cheap Sex” is a clear-eyed assessment of sexual activity, mating and bonding in US culture. Well written, well edited and well grounded in both quantitative and qualitative research, this book expertly and compassionately lays out the less obvious (and largely unintended) effects of reproductive freedom and technologically enhanced “cheap sex.” A recurring theme in the book is that more and hotter orgasms with more partners are paradoxically associated with increasing loneliness across the population.
[Clearly there's a media push behind this couple and their laughable, pro-orgasm version of karezza. Huh??? Their "orgasmic hug" video is a hoot, but I can't embed it. WARNING: Watch out for extreme triggers if you go to the original article.]
MANY couples are incorporating the karezza method into their love lives.
“People have sex like rabbits. Karezza is more like having sex like a tortoise.”
Whether it’s a quickie in the closet while the kids sleep, a brief bang in the bathroom in between teeth-brushing and face-washing, or a three-minute romp in the sack before the snoring strikes, you're probably good at “efficient” sex.
I used to post on this site regularly (I'm going to say 3-5 years ago) and felt both motivated and inspired to fight my ongoing battle with pornography.
My wife and I had an extra-nice session last night. It lasted around 2.5 hours and really connected; an other-worldly expression of our loving feelings for one another manifest in our physical bodies - it's quite something. Lately it seems like each session is even better than the one before although I'm not sure how that's possible. These days we fully enjoy sex, surrenduring completely to it rather than being worried about an unintentional release which rarely happens anymore.
Yeah, so awhile back, this site and yourbrainonporn, diverged..
So this site is more about the karezza / lovemaking / relationship angle
And I don't know if it is right to say this here or not but I started here and always felt more comfortable voicing myself and innermost feelings or whatever here..
I'm at a loss
Someone who was a childhood friend of mine, yeah, haven't talked to this person for years and years.., but yeah, well this person was arrested for sexual abuse..