Members' Blogs

the "old member" reunion thread - please tell us how you are doing if you've been here a long time

emerson's picture
Submitted by emerson on

Lots of folks here helped me. When I started here, I went back and read virtually every old post, multiple times.

It's been awesome ever since, but I know that what happens to most people in this "community" is they graduate and move on.

Mostly because this type of sex just becomes the way you do things in your life. There is not much to improve on and no reason to keep visiting.

But I think most of the "old" members do return here from time to time.

I'd love to hear from you, you know who you are.

How to recover from a sexless marriage?

Submitted by James Bonding on

Several weeks ago I found iliasm.org (I Live In A Sexless Marriage), an active forum with about 1200 members, 40% women and 60% men, who are not getting enough sex in their marriages. Their definition of "sexless marriage" is one in which there is sex less than 10 times per year.

Only about 5 of the members have reported recovering from the sexless marriage status by increasing the sex frequency to an acceptable level. The usual advice is "get a divorce" or "outsource" (find a Friend With Benefits).

Can Vibrators Cause "Dead Vagina Syndrome"?

Marnia's picture
Submitted by Marnia on

Sex therapists are often quick to insist that vibrator use is just great for women. However, there's growing anecdotal evidence that vibrators are actually "supernormal stimuli," which cannot be matched by human partners. For some users, this spells a decline in sexual responsiveness and pleasure during intercourse with a partner.

coming once in awhile and other reflections on Karezza

emerson's picture
Submitted by emerson on

It's been for me about 6 or so years that my wife and I have been practicing Karezza and I have some thoughts I want to share with you.

I have been glorying in approaching the limits and feeling exquisite whole body pleasure in more of an active high energy form of Karezza. 

On the spectrum of let's say left/right, with left being stillness and just connection, and right being out-and-out sex almost to orgasm but not quite, I am more on the right side.

Pages