I have just finished writing this blog post and realise it is very long. Brevity is not my strong point so apologies, but I think I have captured the minimum. Please be warned and read in instalments may be best!
Sex therapists are often quick to insist that vibrator use is just great for women. However, there's growing anecdotal evidence that vibrators are actually "supernormal stimuli," which cannot be matched by human partners. For some users, this spells a decline in sexual responsiveness and pleasure during intercourse with a partner.
It's been for me about 6 or so years that my wife and I have been practicing Karezza and I have some thoughts I want to share with you.
I have been glorying in approaching the limits and feeling exquisite whole body pleasure in more of an active high energy form of Karezza.
On the spectrum of let's say left/right, with left being stillness and just connection, and right being out-and-out sex almost to orgasm but not quite, I am more on the right side.
CSBD is an umbrella term that can be used to diagnose people struggling with porn addiction and sex addiction.
The ICD-11 is the most recent edition of the WHO's International Classification of Diseases, used by doctors worldwide. No doubt the DSM-5 (the mental health manual often promoted/used in the States...because the APA makes money from holding its copyright) will have to follow suit...eventually.
Text here (no longer "beta draft"):
Dear gentle souls stumbling on this post:
Decades of obsession with orgasm, pushed around by hormonal urges (that is what they felt like), and repeated struggles with partners who either didn't meet my voracious appetite (sexual needs/urges) or, somehow failed my criteria to trigger arousal and sexual desire.................here I am, posting this at age 65, happy about sharing with a community of folks who might be able to relate.
I think everyone on this forum would find it fascinating reading. Here's my review from Amazon:
“Cheap Sex” is a clear-eyed assessment of sexual activity, mating and bonding in US culture. Well written, well edited and well grounded in both quantitative and qualitative research, this book expertly and compassionately lays out the less obvious (and largely unintended) effects of reproductive freedom and technologically enhanced “cheap sex.” A recurring theme in the book is that more and hotter orgasms with more partners are paradoxically associated with increasing loneliness across the population.