I ran across a book recently that intrigued me a great deal and I think is giving me clues for self-healing. It was called : A First Rate Madness by Nassir Ghaemi.
His premise is that psychological health is not always good in a leader and psychological illness not always bad. Amongst his survey of many famous leaders and their struggles with mania, depression and manic-depression were the Nazi leaders at the Nurenburg trials . Interestingly they came out as psychologically healthy (Hitler was dead by then). Their violence, however, was quite obviously extreme. In my mind, it put into question the value of the diagnostic system being used. Unfortunately, we still use it today.
I think there is alot of violence in our culture that is seen as psychologically healthy. Most intimate relationships between men and women that I'm aware of are mostly driven by politics (power over the mate) rather than cooperation and mutual support. (When you are stuck together, need each other to get high and/or raise the kids, and don't know how to heal with each other, what else are you going to do?) Interestingly the control group that came closest to mirroring the Nazis were Kansas state troopers. It was suggested that they both share an interest in having power over other people. It made me wonder about Cold War military officers with whom I am far more familiar.
It's very refreshing for me to see that the most violent people in our culture are considered "healthy". No wonder I struggle.
If you have a chance to read the book, I highly recommend it.