I came across an interesting quote about Love and thought I would share it.
It seems to me that Karezza is an effort made by two very intimate partners to help each other uncover the barriers to Love within themselves. It also seems to me that there are things I can do on my own particularly when a willing partner isn't available.
Much of the turmoil in my life (and believe me there has been lots of that) has its roots in a subtly and seriously disturbed mother-son connection in very early youth as well as adolescence. The background culture (being dominated by senior military personnel at the peak of the Cold War) was also seriously disturbed (and celebrated!) in an equally subtle yet powerful way. It's been extraordinarily difficult for me to meet people who share my interest in Truth and healing at the depth that is likely to work best for me. The search to find a social context (other than the odd professional) in which my most basic needs are even given any importance at all has been fruitless. I'm an adult male with the unmet needs of a newborn baby. I crave peace in a world that seems to celebrate war (I am including the "battle of the sexes" here. I see roots in our traditional marriage vows, the foundation of family). This isn't just an emotional longing. My body responds very strongly to the direction I take and the social contexts to which I expose myself. It has put me in hospital in the past.
Here's the quote:
"First, you love yourself. Then you love your neighbour, you love other human beings. And then you move beyond and you love existence. But the basis is you. So don't condemn yourself; don't reject yourself. Accept. The divine has taken abode in you." from Osho. 2009. Compassion. The Ultimate Flowering of Love. page 98.
It's good for me to remember this. It reminds me to lovingly mother myself. It reminds me to honour MY values (Consciousness, Truth, Love, Harmony, Freedom, Peace, Joy, Playfulness..) over family values. I have far more power over that than I do over anyone else. Not always an easy task in this crazy world of people and their culture that seems to generally (with the very rare exception) surround me.
I hope this post is of value to you too. It's been good for me to write it.