I've been learning some interesting things about the power of and my vulnerability to the emotional blackmail of women.
I have a friend who generally struggles a great deal in life. Being a single mom on welfare, its no surprise. This culture doesn't have a lot of compassion for women who reproduce without a very strong support structure in place. I help her out as much as I can and I'm seeing that when things get rough she resorts to emotional tactics that seem to me to be unconscious attempts to drag as much support as possible out of a very limited supply. The end result is the burning of bridge after bridge that could have offered her smaller amounts of support more willingly. I'm now seeing that her interest in my well-being is very limited. Her reproductive project takes front stage and top priority no matter what the effect on others or the world around her. I had the image of a semi going down the highway at breakneck speed, honking to us cyclists on the shoulder to get off the road completely or get flattened! I'm taking the next exit.
It's showing me some interesting stuff about the way women use emotion, its connection to reproductive drives, and how difficult it is for guys who are attached to their "nice guy" image, like me, to protect themselves from it. I wonder how many women realize the power of the effect of their emotional turmoil on their children? There was lots of very intense emotional turmoil in my mother's life when I was very young. It seems to have had a massive effect on my health and well-being.