Newbie, Age 32, Porn Addiction, day 6 of recovery

Submitted by Len_J on
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I am new to this forum, but I am not new to porn addiction. I realized 5 years ago, after I got married, that I definitely had a problem with viewing pornography. For me it is the dual rush of the visual stimulation along with the fear of getting caught. I don't want to ever watch porn again- it is detrimental to my relationship with my wife, to my relationship with my son, to my performance at work (I work at a University and often view porn while at work), and it damages my soul.

Over the last couple of months my compulsive pornography viewing was at an unsustainable level and I could feel myself detaching from everything that *should* have been important to me. On top of this, it was a dangerous and unsustainable risk as the bulk of my pornography viewing was at the workplace. I googled "how do I stop viewing internet porn" because I was desperate, and I came across yourbrainonporn.com, which directed me here. I had heard about some of the chemical reasons for porn addiction, but yourbrainonporn explained it so clearly and outlined concrete steps to break the cycle of addiction. I am excited and I hope that this go around will give me the freedom that I desire. So far so good, and I can already tell that I am connecting better with my wife. Hopefully I can lean on the many who have gone before me for encouragement as I try to regain my foothold on reality.

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Yes, sometimes

knowing how the brain works, and why certain brain changes tend to keep you prisoner makes it easier to choose freedom--whatever it takes.

As the brain grows desensitized, it's not unusual for it to "look around" for ways to jack up the neurochemical buzz. Fear and anxiety do that...and unfortunately they can get wired up as sexual cues. This is not good because it can make you think sex is only "satisfying" if it is risky. Obviously, the way out of the trap is to return your brain to normal sensitivity, so good old vanilla sex feels better and better.

Would your wife be up for trying a radically different approach for a few months? It would help you take the performance pressure off of yourself...and sidestep The Evil Chaser. Wink

♥Karezza is for sex addicts (too)

Do You Need A Chaser After Sex?

Meanwhile, do what you can to regulate your mood during withdrawal. Exercise, socializing, affectionate touch (The Lazy Way to Stay in Love), time in nature, daily meditation...all can help.

Keep us posted.