Yesterday's update:Day 84

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Caved in and looked at pics again I always seem to get triggered by social media.I also came close to relapsing but stopped myself because ive came waaaay to far to backtrack now. Then soon after I went to see A Haunted House 2 which had some really triggering scenes so after all of those massive dopamaine highs I had yesterday I was hoping that maybe I would have a wet dream still no luck in that yet.Now this morning im sort of having thoughts like depressing thoughts about being gay. But its not even hocd its just something that's been on my mind. Its like all of the things that I once found interesting arent interesting anymore TV, social media ,texting nothing. I take this because my brain is desensitized so I dont find natural things rewarding anymore. Im going to delete twitter today its only trigger related for me.Even though I'm not relapsing im not improving at all.


Good idea to remove the triggers

It's normal to feel discouraged the day after too many dopamine rushes. It's almost like a mini "passion cycle" at a neurochemical level for some people. It would be nice to know a lot more about this. I notice the same thing...that is, cravings...after a couple of days of eating goodies I don't normally munch on. The following day my system is jones-ing a bit. That's what yours is too.

Just keep on trucking. You will see a breakthrough soon. At 60-90 days (past your last orgasm), you could try (one) masturbation without porn or porn fantasy. It's the images your brain is hooked on, so they're the least helpful because they activate the pathways that dug your hole for you.

You can do it. Stay positive. And if you just can't, try cold showers. Cold Showers I've been truly amazed at how many guys find they improve mood.

*big hug*

Actually, there's

a good bit of science behind why they're a lot more than that. Smile BTW can you access YBOP yet? Test link:

Taken from blog post of Todd Becker:

I find that cold showers are great for the mood. Not only are they physically invigorating, they make you feel alive, vital and ready to take on the day. They stimulate thinking early in the morning. ... These effects are apparent with the first cold shower. If you continue the practice for several weeks, you’ll find the psychological benefits are even greater. First and foremost, cold showers appear to have improved my stress tolerance, by buffering emotional reactions. What I mean by this is that bad news, surprises, arguments, or events that would have previously caused a brief surge in adrenaline or an emotional flush, no longer have that effect, or at most have a very attenuated effect.  I think this is a consequence of becoming acclimated to the the adrenaline-producing effect of the cold shock.  A deeper explanation of why cold showers are effective in boosting mood, and why the psychological benefits of cold showers increase the longer and more frequently you take them is addressed in my recent post on the opponent-process theory of emotions.

He adds:

The initial intense discomfort of cold shock rapidly shrinks in both intensity and duration, and the self-heating process of thermogenesis becomes more prominent after only a few weeks of the daily habit.  I’ve found benefits in weight control, mood enhancement, and generalized stress resistance.  I’ve not had any colds since starting cold showers. When my family was suffering with a stomach flu that lasted several days, the net effect on me was a 12 hours of achiness which I slept off on a single night, with none of the nausea that they had.

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Here's what forum members shared:

  • Help I'm addicted... to cold showers that is! I've already had 3 or 4 today. I feel my will increasing each time I have one and it gets easier and easier to jump in. I love it! These are fantastic. Just put in one limb at a time until you're whole body is in. Jump up and down if you need to and try to slow your breathing down to it's normal rate. Once the breathing slows down the positive feelings are quite noticeable and make the whole day much better. 
  • COLD SHOWERS! Do them. Once you train yourself to accept/deal with discomfort, you will have strengthened your rational neural pathways, which will DIRECTLY help you with dealing with urges!
  • Cold showers are about 5/10 (in terms of helpfulness) for me. A cold shower is not as practical as you would think because it can't be too cold or you wont be able to stay in long enough to clean yourself. So it has to be closer to average then cold. So I use the technique of fast showers. It works 7/10 for me. Basically I start out with a normal temperature in the shower, and every minute or so I make the temperature of the water colder. The longer I'm in there the cooler it gets. When I finally hit a very cold point, I just shut the water off and end the shower. That way I'm clean and I get the benefit of a cold shower.
  • How I did it: Cold cold showers each day. Yes, hydrotherapy really works. The benefits are many - do a search.
  • Cold showers: I'm on an 81 days streak right now, taking the coldest showers I can, depending on where I am. It's strange how it kills your morning wood yet makes you feel so manly. Your desire to get the fuck out of here is strong, but you resist, and walk out of the shower like you're the king of the world. You're clean, confident, proud, and you can start your day the best way. Age 18 - I don't objectify women anymore & I'm not sad and alone anymore.
  • Running cold water over my genitals can reduce The Urge. I also use a cold wet washcloth to achieve the same effect, if it's impractical to stick my unit in the sink. [NOTE: This technique also appears in Daoist manuals as "dipping genitals in very cold water."] More on this technique.
  • I took a cold shower and didn't feel tired at all during the day. At first it was hard, but then I got accustomed (I did it all the way cold, with no heat). It definitely gives you vitality.
  • Something I discovered at about the 75 day mark is the power of a cold shower. If you EVER need something to take you out of your own ahead and put you into the physical real world, a cold shower will do it RIGHT NOW. I tried doing full cold For a few days in a row, and got to the point where I became a fragile and irritable wreck, so now I have switched to the "Bond" shower (start hot and end cold), And have been on that for almost 2 weeks now. Absolutely loving it. But I can say that a cold shower in any time of weakness will throw you into full throttle warrior mode, guaranteed. I find them incredibly enjoyable. Honestly, I think I realized how sick I was of feeling "comfortable" all day. Now the idea of fearing the brisk of cool air as I exit the shower is almost cute to me. I crush that fear every morning by depriving myself of that comfort of warmth. The idea of minor discomforts is a joke to me now. And the tolerance I've built to physical discomfort is leading to a tolerance of mental discomfort. = no fapping! Not only that, but hot/cold showers are good for circulation and muscle pain. I've started cold shaving too. So much better!
  • Cold Showers. I'm not going to tell you your testosterone increases. But it kills urges really hard. And it makes you feel more awake. Good for morning rituals.
  • I've managed to do Yoga every day for a week, as well as cold showers. That's definitely changed my mood every day. I'm almost up to a week of no online-gaming. That one is difficult, because I get little voices in my head to argue with just like with NoFap. But I've kept them at bay because I know it passes.
  • All of you should try taking a cold shower, in fact every person in the world! The feeling afterwards is that of rejuvenation, alertness, and motivation.
  • Had a cold shower.. Did some pushups and situps. Made eggs for breakfast. Now sipping some Rooibos tea. I normally feel cold in the morning, but after the cold shower - I actually feel warmer! Weird right?
  • At first I thought cold showers were ridiculous... until I actually tried them. I admit, it took lots of getting used to, but it truly does kill your urges. It almost shocks you back into your senses.
  • I just tried a cold shower for the first time. jumped in with it all the way cold. I only lasted like 45 seconds and just tried to control my breathing. I feel so invigorated now though! I'm definitely going to try and stay longer each time.
  • Another guy: Take a 5 minute shower every morning. Turn the faucet as cold as it will go. During the first few days, this will feel like hell on earth. After a few days, you'll learn to feel warm in a freezing shower and experience the soothing benefits on the mind and body.
  • Lately I am finding cold showers very helpful. I never did these before. I'm on day 6 or 7 and lasted 4 minutes today in an ice cold shower. It is extremely uplifting afterwards and improves my whole mood and I think makes everything much, much easier. I think if you haven't considered it, you might want to give them a try for a few weeks. It takes that long to really get adjusted to them. But they can be amazing.
  • [This guy used them as a way to stop masturbating in the shower] In the past I would often relapse while taking the shower - pissed off as I was, I made the decision to take cold showers. As a result, I haven't relapsed since then.
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Listen to an interview with Todd Becker, in which he explains the cold shower benefits. (Fast forward to last 10 minutes if you are short of time.)