Is it the porn or the orgasm?

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I don't fully understand how the neurotransmitters in the brain work ( even though we have recently studied it in Psychology) but I do feel some how, some way, Ibminh is partially accurate (regarding his recent post on Oxytocin and social anxiety).

Over the last 14 months I have tried pretty hard to give up PMO. I have made it over 30 days several times and over a 100 days once between binge episodes. Here are a few things I have experienced.

1)Going without PMO definitely reduces my social anxiety. Not to be confused with Shyness, but actual clinical anxiety symptoms.
2)Confidence builds, tricking my mind into thinking its OK to MO regardless of the consequences. My newly found confidence overrides any fear of consequences such as anxiety coming back worse.
3)I actually feel even better after MO, even more relaxed ( not just hours after orgasm but even days). Effects of Oxytoxin? Don't know.
4) Unfortunately, after ejaculation "Chaser Effect" kicks in. And at this point I can only hold on so long before relapsing back on porn.
5) Fall back into porn. The "rush" I get from porn is similiar to the feeling I get when I used to smoke Meth. Being exposed to so much dopamine eventually makes me feel weak, confidence low, more anxiety.
6) Cycle continues until I hit rock bottom, and decide to give up PMO, again.

My conclusion: The porn is what effects my confidence and anxiety. Masturbation and orgasm don't seem to have that negetive effect, but the orgasm LEADS to the porn. It is like I can't have 1 without the other. Not yet anyways.

Masturbation has been around forever. Did guys in the 1950s suffer from anxiety nearly as frequent or to the degree of guys since the era of internet porn? I wonder.

By the way... today marks Day 8 of PMO free, again.

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Sorry for going offtopic a

Sorry for going offtopic a bit here, but you mentioned that you've made 100 days once. Did you feel close to being recovered that time? Were you able to check your body response to real women then?

When in doubt

you're wise to use your ancestors as a model. They didn't have Internet porn. Most simply couldn't override their natural satiety mechanism in the brain. They had to take time-outs that you guys don't...because you can keep clicking, which jacks up your dopamine in an unnatural way.

So I think you nailed it...unfortunately. Eventually, you'll be able to orgasm without a chaser. In fact, maybe you could do it now if you had someone to snuggle every day.

Can you block your access to porn before you masturbate?

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*big hug*