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long distance or weekend karezza relationships - how do you handle?

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Recently I was away for a period of time, sadly, and when I got back I had an enormous amount of sexual energy and we both came.

I'm not saying this is bad, but I wonder how you do it if you have a relationship where you live apart during the week.

When you get together, do you come at first, and then not come the rest of the weekend? Or do you learn to avoid coming at all?

year is ending, so what did you learn?

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I have learned even better that a voice always says, "you should come", and when I'm inside her, I think, there is the voice, just as I expected to hear. And I pay no attention to the man behind the curtain and I avoid coming.

Except when I don't, but then I pay for it.

I found some things that increase libido and erections this year which I've been practicing, and all is good. 

As I said a year ago, nothing changed wrt my wife and her low drive but I finally stopped caring.

wake up wake up

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OMG this forum has been so flat and dead. Wake up y'all.

So I've been doing some health things that shall remain nameless and having extraordinary feelings and erections. Result is that I have come twice in a week. Not what I really enjoy. 

I could have stopped it both times but I suppose it's really about getting a little too worked up.

Anyway, I want to say HI and hopefully spark some conversation here, on this most treasured place.

so what have you learned this year?

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I'd love to know what you've learned this year, especially if you've been practicing Karezza for some time.

I'm still learning all the time. Our sex life is great, very stable. Very enjoyable on all fronts. It is better than ever.

I am still figuring out how not to come when I don't want to. It doesn't occur that often, but more than I would like. I'd prefer not to come at all. 

I have never "solved" the "low drive" on my wife's part, but it doesn't really matter. We have a lot of sex and it's very pleasurable and we have a wonderful life.


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For no real reason, yesterday I had a blue balls attack. And today, when lying down with my wife, it was so blindingly obvious that I was going to come.

So I told her that when I was inside her. And I came pretty fast. But really a physical release. It is quite possible for a man to ejaculate without an orgasmic sensation which is what I did. I will see if this takes a lot out of me in the next week or so.

I think it was something my body wanted me to do. I'll share with you how it works out.


Things that affect us like an orgasm (but aren't an orgasm)

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I have begun to realize more nuances of things that affect me similar to having an orgasm.

For instance, fantasy. I can feel a surge of dopamine and it feels like sexual fuel being added to the fire. But it's not "good" fuel. It's "ejaculation" fuel. And after awhile I find that such fuel makes my wife feel less attractive and makes sex more difficult.

I avoid fantasy pretty well but sometimes unavoidably it rears its ugly head.