This summer, i had sex several times with limited success. I used Cialis and got erections with oral/manual stimulation, got the condom on, but had a lot of premature ejaculation. I recently found a cuddle buddy and we have spent several days in the last week cuddling and sleeping. It's been nice and there has been no pressure to have sex.
However, I am still not getting erections from cuddling and holding like I used to (10 years ago). I am attracted to this girl, physically and emotionally.
I will continue to cuddle with her but I think that it will get physical sooner or later. Ideally, I'd like to get erections from cuddling or kissing first but that isn't happening. Should I keep cuddling or just try to have as sex and work on my ED/PE problems? My therapist thinks that my ED/PE problems are all due to anxiety. However, when we are cuddling, I have no anxiety since I know it won't lead to anything.