I want to stop masturbating, but I don't know how. would be grateful for help.

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Hi, This is my first time blogging here.

I have been using porn since I was 13, 22 years ago. This past June, I stopped using visual porn. I am a devout Christian and I knew that by using pictures and videos of naked women, I was sinning against them.

The problem is I went off visual media and went to pornographic stories. I still masturbate if not everyday, every other day.

I have an anxiety disorder and feel tired, anxious, and irritable most of the time, I know that chronic masturbation is not helping matters. I want to have a girlfriend and a normal not a slave to sex life.

I try to stop and then I have this huge physical urge, that is so hard to fight. It is like a physical,mental,emotional craving that consumes me. I hate this feeling

I found your website and I thought I would come and blog and ask for advice and accountability. I tried a Christian deliverence ministry but all that did was make me feel more guilt and shame.

I know that I can't do this without God but I do get into shame spirals

I am going to see my psychiatrist Wednesday and also I was wondering if you know of any medication that would help with the withdrawel?

I am going to continue to come here and blog and let you know how I am doing.

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yea , being a christian

yea , being a christian helped me the most i can say(and this site too ofc) , if it wasnt for Him i wouldnt have made it so far , its been 90 days for me since my last PMO , and I am telling you , once you tell the God that you want to heal , He's gonna forgive you for everything , its normal to feel ashamed of this , but remember , He will forgive you!
and dont stop blogging here , eveytime when the craving are so bad , im coming here and read some stories , it really calms me down , i was just like you , anxious , nervous , ashamed ,(i still am sometimes) but until you stop PMO those feeling are not gone , this is an addiction , just like drugs and others , you must fight against it , you are young , you can do it!

It's not the flesh actually

it's measurable changes in your brain.

But they will change back...gradually. Uncle Bob has lots of tips: http://yourbrainonporn.com/uncle-bob-porn-addiction-recovery-tips

Two of the things guys find most helpful are:

RED X

Cold water technique

Yeah, the erotica is just as bad, because it activates the same old pathways in the brain. Most guys have to give up porn, masturbation and porn-fantasy.

Let us know how it goes.

*big hug*