Has anyone tried intentional periods of no socializing? I've adjusted my life to be a lot more social than in other times in the sense of trying to find groups I might like and like-minded people. For the most part, it's been a dismal failure and unsatisfying so I'm thinking about trying a contrary approach that hopefully won't atrophy my social muscles. It might look something like this. I will not seek socializing or go to any group events/meetings/meetups etc. unless personally? invited. Instead, I will focus on quality interactions in daily life. I will stay open to one-on-one interactions as I find them or they find me. With the time gained, I will go out on my own to be in the world in some manner. I'm not sure exactly how that might look. This could be strange because at the moment my daily life doesn't involve much socialization beyond this seeking. In some ways, this seems like a reversion to my past. I sense I'm onto something that I can't quite pinpoint at the moment. It might be more satisfying in a way to sit in a coffee shop and read and observe others and maybe interact if someone seems interesting than to go to forced interaction events. Of course, by doing this I might not socialize at all which isn’t good or at least that seems to be what the conventional wisdom suggests. The parts of random socializing I most enjoy are the post-event interactions on a more personal level. Perhaps I can skip the less fulfilling parts and get more of the satisfying interactions. Events are doing focused and while enjoyable for content are not enough about interacting, which seems more about being.
Any thoughts or suggestions? Maybe hermits don't have things entirely wrong.