If it's not one damn thing, it's another

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Well, I have news to report: we've had sex. Twice. I'm no longer a virgin. It wasn't exactly the earth shattering, change your life kind of experience some report. I don't feel any different, about myself or her.

It could be that neither time lasted very long. The first time may have lasted a couple minutes and the second time probably clocked in under a minute. We weren't exactly going hot and heavy, I just seemed to be unable to control the situation. So, anyone have advise on how to deal with premature ejaculation?

Last thing to report: I still have ED problems, but I've been getting strong enough erections in the morning that allow for the intercourse. It's weird that at night, it doesn't matter how much stimulation I get, I can't inspire anything; whereas, in the morning, I'm ready to go before we've even kissed, and any stimulation causes me to orgasm right away. Perhaps I'm still working on balance.


So last night I had sex...

twice. Didn't think that was going to happen. The erections are getting more steady now.

Last night, when I entered her, I decided to set the pace, not by saying anything, but by slowing her body down and basically taking charge of the rhythm. That helped a lot and allowed me to go for a few minutes before ejaculating.

This morning, I was able to go several minutes, perhaps as long as a 1/2 hour, and never did end up ejaculating. Instead, I went soft. We even had sex for several minutes with me having only a partial erection. I wasn't even sure that was possible.

Anyway, it does feel more enjoyable and intimate the longer I'm able to make it last. I also appreciate not ejaculating. I'm not left with that hollow feeling afterward. One of these days, I may mention karezza or just explain to her that I'll be able to go more often and have more frequent erections if I don't orgasm. I really don't feel that the orgasm is that important.

Also, it's helpful that I've had a very patient partner who hasn't really questioned me or made me feel inadequate. I lucked out in that department.

I've gone

for extended periods many times before, reaching as many as 105 days. I've been porn free for 67 days now. My girlfriend has brought me to orgasm several times, starting about a month ago, so I can't really say I've been MO free.


Your story made read all of your post back to the very beginning, since you seemed to be in a very similar situation as the one I am in now, and I have to say it was very inspiring. It's good to see other people who have been in a similar situation and how they eventually get their life back on track, well done! I hope your problems will be solved quickly, I think they will be way easier to overcome than what you've been through before. Hang in there!

Thanks for reading!

It helps that my story can help others. I didn't necessarily think things would ever work out for me, but they have in many ways. I've been on this journey for almost 3 years, on and off PMO in various fashions. It hasn't been easy. I'm still dealing with a lot of emotional bullshit. I would also say that just being off PMO isn't enough. One has to truly confront one's demons. However, abstaining does help bring some of those demons out so you can ultimately exorcise them.

One of these days, I'll write a post recapping my journey and summarizing the things that have helped me most. I still feel very much on the journey, but I can't deny the advances I have made.

A recap would be great

As you know, rebooting accounts are precious to those diving in and struggling with the dips along the way.

I'm glad you're noticing improvements. Most penises like vaginas I guess.wink Sounds like she might be the type to enjoy exploring karezza.

I am 37.

I started looking at porn when I was about 13 or so. I started looking at it heavily over 10 years ago. I've been trying to recover for the last 3 years, going on and off again.