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How to recover from a sexless marriage?

Submitted by James Bonding on

Several weeks ago I found iliasm.org (I Live In A Sexless Marriage), an active forum with about 1200 members, 40% women and 60% men, who are not getting enough sex in their marriages. Their definition of "sexless marriage" is one in which there is sex less than 10 times per year.

Only about 5 of the members have reported recovering from the sexless marriage status by increasing the sex frequency to an acceptable level. The usual advice is "get a divorce" or "outsource" (find a Friend With Benefits).

Not enough sex

Submitted by James Bonding on

For most of my 30+ year marriage I've felt like I haven't gotten as much sex as I wanted. Now, I want to solve this problem. I welcome anyone who has a similar situation to join this discussion, and would especially like to hear from people who have solved the problem in their own marriages.

Crowdfunding Campaign for New Male Contraception Method

Submitted by James Bonding on

The Male Contraception Initiative (MCI) is a non-profit org dedicated to promoting development of new male birth control methods. They have a crowdfunding campaign for one new method at


MCI's website (linked at the above web page) presents information about five different methods, including one called the Clean Sheets Pill. Check it out!