18 days to 1 month!

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I got a new job this week, and it keeps me occupied enough to where I haven't had sexual fantasies about people a lot this week (intimate fantasies about gf doesn't count, lol.) But even if they do, I've gotten to the point where I can immediately stop it in it's tracks. Three months ago I'd have given in to any fantasy, because if it looks good, it must feel good, and if it feels good, it must be good. Now I don't know about you guys, but if I fantasize about something enough, I'm the kind of guy who wants the fantasy to be realized. I totally cannot do this with anyone. It's not right. The way I combat this is, I slow down the fantasy, giving me enough to think of the object of the fantasy, and it's moral and ethical implications, and the fantasy then become laden with guilt, and eventually spirals down and ends.
Physically speaking, my morning woods are "fresh," in the sense that they occur, and are energetic. However, the downside is that the urge to masturbate and give in at these times becomes stronger. I have not given in yet, and I hope I never do. During these times of arousal, I've noticed my penis gaining size, as well as firmness, which is definitely a good sign. I really can't tell about my balls. My girlfriend says that "blue balls" is not literal, but I've read some posts on this site that suggest otherwise. I'm guessing time will tell.

Because of my new job, I've also almost stopped worrying about my gender identity and sexuality. I'm sure that time will reveal more about this as my brain "de-porns" itself over the next few months. My meditation and yoga practice is going great, and I'm doing well at the gym. Now to only modify my eating habits to that it's complementary to my gym session, and doesn't totally waste the hours spent in there Smile

My girlfriend and I are pretty intimate with each other, but we are waiting till my brain finishes deporning itself. Till then we're settling with snuggling and cuddling and kissing, and being cheesy. She's very supportive of me, even in the gender identity area. I am very lucky to be with her.


That's a great report

Sounds like you are really starting to understand yourself and your options...and also genuinely enjoying the present moment.

Very impressive. And congratulations on the new job!

I'm beginning to realize

that at this point, right now, my gender identity and sexuality aren't important enough to redirect all my mental resources to addressing this issue. My main objective is recovery from PMO addiction, and 3-4 months later, everything will fall into it's natural place. And of course, my education, because frankly, no respectable woman wants to be with someone who doesn't have a stable financial life Smile

Calming the lust hormones

I have a friend who loves to go to the sports bar, Hooter's, in Texas. He's shared with me that he changes his perception and reaction to the young women there (as he is now officially 60 and doesn't look it) by telling himself "She's somebody's daughter" or " . . . somebody's sister."

Wish everyone were like him - a great guy.

That's actually a good idea.

The "lust hormones" as you say, can be very strong if they're not attended to for a while. The longer you ignore them, the stronger their shouting becomes, and it's very hard to think straight, especially in the mornings when morning wood hits you like a brick. It becomes a lot harder to control your fantasies, and a lot harder to just not give in.

And yes, your friend sounds like an awesome dude. Smile