Karezza Korner's blog
These came from the community here at www.reuniting.info:
Karezza: I believe in sex after marriage
Karezza: More pleasurable sex than the "conventional" way
Karezza: Sex that lasts much longer than the "old" way
Karezza goes straight to your ♥
Karezza: Coitus modificatus
Karezza: Infinite Piece
Become a karezza ninja!
Karezza, the everlasting gobstopper of Love. -- Willie Wonka
Karezza - puts your vibrator out of a job!
Karezza: The love you save may be your own
Karezza: Not the namby-pamby weak-ass way to have sex you may think it is
Cool, Caring, Caress: Karezza
Condoms can be challening with karezza, because erections may come and go as the sexual connection ebbs and flows.
A woman contributed this insight:
The female condom would be perfect for karezza as it fits the woman, not the man, so no worries about erections coming and going. I'm sure the delicious energy flow could still be felt (it's very strong when your minds on really focused).
(Marnia) That's an individual choice, but they are certainly an option for most of us.
(Quizure) I recommend just 15 minutes of karezza-like snuggling meditation in the morning. It's best naked, but even if you don't sleep naked, I still think it will work. My partner and I do this every day—sometimes as a precursor to PVI karezza, but most of the time just by itself.
(Marnia) A few years back, there was a husband posting here. He had been through a 12-Step sex addiction program...and 3-4 years of celibacy in his marriage. Karezza was the next step. It took him a while to get the hang of not going for orgasm, but he and his wife both loved the intimacy of it.
(Mrs. TFB) We used to feel a little awkward and confused if one of us ended conventional sex for whatever reason, but that's because we were focused on ourselves. Now that we practice karezza, we stop because we both intuitively feel it is time to stop. No hard feelings, because we're on the same page. There are no expectations other than giving to one another, so if it ends...it's okay.
Someone asked me:
What about karezza for parents with kids? Do you and your wife have kids? It seems like the lovemaking process of karezza is so long and drawn out that parents with kids may not find this feasible to do (i.e., not enough energy etc).
"What strikes me the most about this whole process is how quick and dramatic the changes were for us. We went from being your typical 20-year married couple to completely open-hearted, always at the ready, 24x7 lovers, in a matter of days! This magnitude of change, occurring in such a short time frame cannot be the result of any sort of cognitive process; that can take years. This is clearly a neurochemical and/or hormonal related process. If there was a pill you could buy to do that, it would be on the front page of every magazine and in a t.v. commercial at every break. But since it's inside every one of us and free, we never hear about it. Such a shame....
From my recent experiments with non-orgasmic sex, I'm tempted to view orgasm and its associated hangover as "the matrix" (think the 1999 movie) whose effects marketers can use to manipulate us. It reminds me of this quote from the movie:
The Matrix is everywhere. It is all around us. Even now, in this very room. You can see it when you look out your window or when you turn on your television. You can feel it when you go to work… when you go to church… when you pay your taxes. It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth. … That you are a slave, Neo. Like everyone else you were born into bondage. Born into a prison that you cannot smell or taste or touch. A prison for your mind.
For those who haven't experienced the difference between conventional fertilization-based sex and Karezza, that might sound like an extreme analogy, but the way orgasm changes my energy level, outlook, emotional state, availability for connection, satisfaction with my marriage, with life, etc. is so dramatic and essentially unconscious, I think the analogy fits."
If you want to know more about the practice, you may wish to check out:
- the links below, which contain much collective wisdom about karezza from forum visitors
- Lovers' Ultimate Sex Hack: Karezza or What Is Karezza?, introductory articles
- news stories from around the world about karezza (If you like the karezza concept and you want to spread awareness remember to "like" the stories you read on your favorite social media.)
- Reddit.com's FAQs on Karezza
- our collection of people's' Karezza Journeys (new)
(Darryl) My wife and I have practiced karezza-style lovemaking for 13 years. When I thought carefully about exactly what I do when engaging with my wife, what struck me was how the penis is a sending instrument. It's designed obviously to send. Even if you don't orgasm and send semen into the woman, your penis is still a sending tool. You need to send something when engaging sexually. What I observe is that I actually send energy.