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Am I a freak of nature?Help! View Edit Submitted by ljermontov on Mon, 2012-02-06 23:53
I been writing on YBOP and I want to hear helpful oppinions( if that exists ) from you people.I am 34,single.I been using PMO for 20years multiple times a day I was shy approaching women.Lost virginity at 27 with prostitute.Before my libido was so high,I could be aruosed with just looking at woman now it so low I get aroused only on porn,I stopped porn when I saw that I go for mor harder and harder stuff.When I masturbate I am erect,but when I am with a women I get Performance anxiety and ED,all I think of is :will it go up?And it doesnt go up,I can't get those minds out of my head.Now I am 1 month without PMO and I am determinated to go as much as it takes to reach objective.Before one week I had sex with girl,It did not go up,I had to masturbate to get it
somehow up,and I succeded.Yesterday I tried with the same girl,no response.I masturbated ,it did not go up,but when I touched her vagina I came instantly.I did it two times.So now I suffer from ED,Performance anxiety and premature ejaculation.I get morning woods,mentaly and phisicaly I am OK, but
something is wrong with me did I damaged myself with the overuse of PMO so that I am now freak of nature,a man that can not do what man is supposed
to do.Will rebooting help,is there any help or hope please? Like Be the first of your friends to like this.

Definitely not a freak of nature Permalink Submitted by Batman on Tue, 2012-02-07 01:25.
I think there are a lot of guys on this site going
through the exact same
thing. You've only gone
one month without PMO.
Lots of guys take a lot
longer, depending on a
host of factors listed here:
I'm no expert, but looking
on the bright side,
premature ejaculation at
this point might actually
be better than the other
end of the spectrum,
where you have real
trouble getting off with a
real person.
It might be helpful, when
you feel ready to be
intimate again, to try it
with someone you feel
very comfortable with,
someone you can explain
your history and situation
to, someone who is
happy to try stuff in a no-
pressure environment.
Someone who agrees that
kissing, cuddling and
fooling around can be
ends themselves - not
just means to an end of
(I think this might have
been posted in the wrong

Permalink Submitted by
Marnia on Tue, 2012-02-07
in your blog, click on
"Members' blogs" and
then "My blog"
Recovery is nonlinear.
That is, your brain is
having to recalibrate in
fundamental ways once
you stop heavy porn use
and focus only on
women. It's normal for
things to "swing around
like a pendulum" for a
while, from one extreme
to the other. It can take
several months before
your body is responding
in a balanced way. You
may want to read some
of the accounts here:
"Help! I quit porn, but my
potency, genital size, and
libido are decreasing"
You're actually doing well,
even though you're not
healed yet.

THNX, Marnia Smile Permalink Submitted by ljermontov on Sun, 2012-02-12 17:20.

Thanx ,Marnia,you and Gary have brought hope in my life.I bless the day when I was surfing about performance anxiety and on Psichology Today I found a link of YBOP .I just have to persist,be patient,follow the rules,follow the yellow brick road.Just did not excpeted that this is going to be that hard.P.S.By the way ,there is one thing in my country,we are getting bombed by ED medicines ads on TV,the allmighty EPIMEN is going to solve everything,ED is common to all ages and happens to everybody they say in commercial.Everybody brags about their sexual experience,and you would imagine how they walk with allday erection and everybody is saturated with porn,when they do not do anything they kill time watching porn nasties ,like zoo sex and they speak how that drug EPIMEN has made them a sex beasts.Does nobody see what is going on?Is everybody blind or do not have the courage to admit the truth and fight?Thanks to You and Gary I will not fall for cheap TV trick or dive in porn hell from which slowly I am coming out.Becoming an addict made me weak,but fighting addiction will make me a man,and as we all know becoming a man is hard.



I guess we have just as many ED ads, but they don't show people watching porn. (They just feature an announcer telling men, "If your erection persists for more than 4 hours, see your doctor.")

Really? That's in the ad?

I remember about 5 years ago when a guy sent me my first private message connecting the dots you're talking about. He even wondered if there was a conspiracy between the porn makers and the pharmaceutical companies because the porn causes ED.  I was stunned...but he has turned out to be exactly right.

Can't wait until you're all functioning normally again.

As I said You and Gary

As I said You and Gary brought light to my life,I know I will be fine one day,I do not know when it will happen ,but I am sure that it will happen.When I get well I will not be ashamed to speak about this,because people must know,and what is happening in my Croatia it happens in all of the world.You and Gary have done and are doing a great thing,you are opening eyes to us.After beeing healed it would be selfish to keep a secret to myself,I will share it to others.I pray for day when only possible consumer of porn and ED drugs will be my 86 years old grandad.He is rough but honest and smart man once he saw me watching porn and said to me,this is not making love to a woman,this is stupid,if you look this you will make your hand a pussy and your willy a fool.He was right I made a fool of myself,but thanks to You and Gary,fool never more...

I like your grandfather!

But I bet he had to learn a few lessons the hard way too...especially sexual ones. Our brains have their own very powerful agenda when they "think" we're fertilizing a lot of women (or being fertilized Wink ).