FEAR, how to get rid of it ???

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OK. I have once again turned my psicho clock on zero days,even my relapse was not a true relapse,but I keep what I have gained and continue with new,stronger path.But... There is allways one BUT ,and this one is called fear.When other people think about me,things I have done (I am not Chuck Norris) they consider me brave,fearless,I do not think this way.These things I have done are things you do not think about,things that every person willing to help another human must do.Then why do I feel fear of failure of preforming sex.Why do I even think about it,why as the oportunity for casual sex comes around I feel fear of not preforming,and these fearfull thougts saturate my mind.How do I get rid of them? PMO produced my ED with normal partner,and that produced more and more fear.Today I remembered my hot neighbour in my home,and me 14 then,fully erect,dirty little bastard,rubbing on her every time she passed by me.I did not had fear of failure then,and now ,20yrs after,I can not take those fears out of my head,and they are strongest when you are with real partner.Why there was no such fear when I masturbated to porn?PMO is the bitch...

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There's a saying that goes,

There's a saying that goes, "Courage is only courage when you're afraid". My rule around fear is, whatever I'm afraid of I head straight towards. The only way around fear is through it. I used to have a irrational fear of deep water so I went out and took diving lesson as well as rolling lessons in a kayak. That fear is no longer there.

So you're afraid of a limp dick with a woman that may want you. So, we all are. Dont let that stop you. Lets say you're in a social situation and woman you find attractive express some interest in you. You can respond with fear and slink away with your limp dick fear or you could strike up a conversation and move towards the situation that your fear screams at you to run away from. When she says, "would you like to come back to my place", you look her in the eyes and say, "I find you very attractive, your a beautiful woman and I'd love to take you up on your offer.. I do want to let you know I have a bit of ED going on right now and I cant promise I'll be able to get it up for you, heaven knows you deserve it. What I can offer you is a tongue that will curl your toes and I am completely in charge of that apendage. So if you're still intested I would be honored". I highly doubt she would turn you down. See, erect masculine presence is far more a turn on to a woman that just an erect penis. Men think performance is what women want but its masculine presence they yearn for. A man who wrestles his demons exudes an energy thats usually attractive to the feminine. When you suck in on yourself, that is the turn off way more than a softy. Fear shrinks when you challenge it and grows when you run from it. Fear is a bully with no bite, unless you give him teeth.

Darryl wrote:

[quote=Darryl]There's a saying that goes, "Courage is only courage when you're afraid". My rule around fear is, whatever I'm afraid of I head straight towards. The only way around fear is through it. I used to have a irrational fear of deep water so I went out and took diving lesson as well as rolling lessons in a kayak. That fear is no longer there.

So you're afraid of a limp dick with a woman that may want you. So, we all are. Dont let that stop you. Lets say you're in a social situation and woman you find attractive express some interest in you. You can respond with fear and slink away with your limp dick fear or you could strike up a conversation and move towards the situation that your fear screams at you to run away from. When she says, "would you like to come back to my place", you look her in the eyes and say, "I find you very attractive, your a beautiful woman and I'd love to take you up on your offer.. I do want to let you know I have a bit of ED going on right now and I cant promise I'll be able to get it up for you, heaven knows you deserve it. What I can offer you is a tongue that will curl your toes and I am completely in charge of that apendage. So if you're still intested I would be honored". I highly doubt she would turn you down. See, erect masculine presence is far more a turn on to a woman that just an erect penis. Men think performance is what women want but its masculine presence they yearn for. A man who wrestles his demons exudes an energy thats usually attractive to the feminine. When you suck in on yourself, that is the turn off way more than a softy. Fear shrinks when you challenge it and grows when you run from it. Fear is a bully with no bite, unless you give him teeth.[/quote]

Quoted for sheer fcking awesomeness. This is a whole new perspective/mind set

same problem

I think a successful, confident man will have even worse ED than a lesser man because the great parts put more shame on the shameful parts. What made you successful is fear as a motivator, and the same fear turned on your libido. I have the same problem, and now I basically need Viagara to get it up with the once in a blue-moon nights stands.

But strangely enough, I can fuck prostitutes no problem! Its like hot prostitutes activate the same neural pathways as pron. Actually this was why for a while I didn't think I had ED.

And yeah I know, I don't do hookers no more. It was a younger and stupider kind of things, but I regret nothing -- they are fucking hot!

You re right guys,when I look

You re right guys,when I look at my days,how they pass.All day long I am fighting invisibile demons,I see a couple on the street and my demons tell me:look that man cam do to a girl what you can not,you are defective.These thougts kill my self confidence in sex.I hope rebooting will work and hornines will do it's job one day...

Thanks,MARNIA, a woman

Thanks,MARNIA, a woman allways tell the right words(I do not want to offend Gary,he also tells the right words,maybe because he is born to help,or maybe because he has a good woman by his side,or both:-)) .Soon is the word i forgot a long time ago,we all have to keep telling to ourselves:I 'll get well SOON. Smile Special THANKS to Gary and Marnia for sacrificing and devoting their life to help others,you guys do the most amazing thing in the world...

Relaxation

Relaxation is the antidote to fear. Just stay focussed on yourself and relax, that way you won't worry about others, and create fear.
If you want more info then google "osho relax" or "osho fear" "osho fearlessness"

Good luck!