Would human pair bonding often work this way, in the absence of supernormal sexual stimulation?

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Maybe karezza just corrects for the factors that have blown us off course.



In the not so distant past

In the not so distant past, when birth control was less effective and harder to come by it took a while for people to initiate sex. Before consenting, a woman had to feel that the relationship merited the risk. By the mid '70s that was no longer the situation and first date sex became fairly common. While the social factors (religious, cultural, etc) faded to a great extent the emotional element has not changed. We CAN have casual sex but not everyone is well suited to it. I see this as reversion to a mean. The last fifty years have seen sex lives change a lot but people are still pretty much the same creature we were back in the idyllic '50s. In fact, we are pretty much the same creature as we were even thousands of years ago.

Men, that's right, MEN, seem to want more affection and cuddling. Hey, we're supposed to be the Neanderthals that want to drag women by the hair and take them to our caves. It turns out that we'd rather have a snuggle-buddy.

We are complex creatures, a blend of physical, mental, spiritual and who knows what else. For eons, people have tried to separate the layers and to draw lines between these domains but, IMHO, it can't be done. Swingers, and other sexual adventurers feel that love and sex can be separated. I don't see it that way. I once visited a swinger's forum and found it interesting that there was an area for helping other forum members. The titles of the threads there seemed to reflect a common problem, developing feelings for a casual swing partner. We can try with all of our might, but we can't escape our nature. We are a pair-bonding species whether we like it or not.

LTE wrote:

[quote=LTE] Hey, we're supposed to be the Neanderthals that want to drag women by the hair and take them to our caves. [/quote]

Actually you'd be surprised at the latest research on neanderthals. Neanderthals have 15 to 30% bigger brains than us, they were gentle farm folk who taught modern humans about stone work which started the "stone age"(And we still can't figure how they built those megalithic structures), and it was us Cro Magnons who were the unkind ones that dragged women away, lived in caves, made effective weapons, and probably wiped out neanderthals. Oh and Western Europeans have 15 to 29-something % of neanderthal DNA markers out of what was intact enough to test. And the Celtic red hair, green eyes and black hair blue eyes probably came from them. The brow ridge, still seen in western europeans is a counterweight for the larger brain, esp. the occipital lobe(visual-spatial)

I hope you don't mind my interjection. I'm just saying, I find it very interesting: The question of where humans came from. 1,000,000 years of man walking earth and us modern humans present for like 200,000 of those at most.