Morning sex vs morning masturbation

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I have been doing well lately w.r.t to my PMO goals keeping it under control.

But Monday morning, I woke up early with a hard on and relapsed ( not porn just MO ).

The entire day I felt foggy/anxious/panicky/nervous/overwhelmed even though there was nothing really to be nervous about. It was good reminder to me of what happens when you relapse especially in the morning, you have no energy left throughout the day and your brain is just foggy. Even in the past, when I was addicted to MO, I remember morning MO was the worst, it just seemed to deplete energy to do anything ( both physical and mental).

But then I started thinking - morning sex is supposed to be the best and really healthy. Or is it ? Morning sex is really good but what about the after effects? Are they the same as morning masturbation or is it different because there is bonding involved?

When I had a gf, we enjoyed cuddling early morning but I can't recall having morning sex. Any thoughts?

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I didn't notice the effects

when I used to ejaculate in morning sex.

I noticed it later though after I stopped ejaculating much.

I think your body gets habituated to it (or your brain does) and you don't notice the depletion of energy.

If I ejaculate in the morning during partner sex these days, it is a rare event, and it may not bother me much or it may a lot, depending on what I do not know. I think it seems if the ejaculation happens out of nowhere, I'm okay as far as it affecting me, but if it is something that I kind of try for, then it affects me more.

But isn't it nice to notice cause and effect?

Also,

masturbation and sex are not the same. They even have different neurochemical "signatures." Sex, for example, releases more prolactin. But there are probably other differences, too, due to the affectionate touch and connection with a mate.

What matters is what you observe. And, as emerson says, you may notice that the effects are not always the same in any case.

Thanks guys

I guess I will just have to experiment for myself. :)

I agree with Emerson though that your body gets habituated to it and you don't notice the depletion of energy.I used to do it all the time in graduate school and couldn't focus in classes and my goals. I could feel there was something wrong but couldn't quite figure out what . Now that I have cut down PMO, the effects of a relapse are magnified.

So morning masturbation is definitely out.

different effects from different ways of masturbation?

-a guy edging can go up and down for a long time,
- making a baby needs largely rules out dependance on anyones hand,(so masturbation habits can factor in)
someone part of a relaxed goalless lovemaking with a familiar partner may not need to deem slower weaker arousal than from ones youth as ED.
add or take away porn, changes the equation,
add or take away thinking of porn during sec changes the equation,
add or take away youth,
add or take away fantasy vs focus on the self (or partner if not solo)

lots of variables that probably all factor in.

myself i'm still trying to find the best habits, regime, diet, exercise, state of mind all for the goal of
havinga better love life with my wife and overcoming mild ED (my ED it tends to be more of a slow down if I've come one or even 2 days prior- we are trying to get pregnant)

The last few times...not to

The last few times...not to ejacluate after intercourse was great!!
Normaly I stay in bed, till she is ready with her shower, in the meantime, I surf in the net or cuddle with my pillow.
An then, if she is ready with her shower..I'm not in the mood to stand up and go to the shower...bu tif I don't ejaculate..I don't know why..I'm clearly fresh! and full of enrgy, maybe I wash the dishes in the meantime :-)Really! and put the dishes into the closet Smile
Most of the time with an hard on, I like that Smile She too Smile

Great Development!

Yep, intercourse without climax is a wondrous thing. It is great to see the newfound energy, and putting it to good use, such as household chores. It is great to see the newfound responsiveness in our bodies, too. I, too, have become a much more frequent dishwasher, and vacuumer, and all-around more helpful person. I am very happy for you and your partner, Timo!