I think I'll get something out of this. My wife discovered my going to strip clubs back in October. I initially denied, but then confirmed that I went some. In December she got a hold of my smart phones thru location & discovered that I was going to strip clubs 1-3 times a week, even at lunch. We've been fighting a lot for the last couple of years, she's a control freak, nitpicking, nagging. I moved out January 1st, filed for divorce January 4th, and she proceeded to discover thru looking at cash withdrawals that I've spent $40,000 over the last 5 years, which of course is all true. The secret is out, my 3 adult daughters know about dad and I'm going to SLAA 3 times a week, and seeing a SAT counselor. Her being a super catholic, I'm not sure she will ever get over this. She is seeing her own SAT counselor. I've told her my doubts about us & I can't even imagine moving back in for at least another 6-7 months. We were seeing each other once a week, but I got tired of her acting like am the worst person in the world. It probably doesn't that I think I probably am. So now we text each other 1-2 times a week. It makes it easier to be nice when you're texting. My support group, SLAA, I love and this helps me make it thru the day. I've been sober 43 days. The divorce is on pause, but will be dismissed over the next few weeks, if we do nothing. I need to stop beating myself up & allow my wife lots of time to somehow get over the betrayal & start to trust me again.