This part of dating seems astonishing to me. How do potential partners trigger us so much? I've been whacked all day and eating junk to subconsciously try not to confront the triggers I can't quite identify. I don't even know if this is good or bad. While common, this round seems to be worse. How do people go on a new date every night? I guess they go on shorter, simpler dates that are less intense. I've never been good at that as my dates are better defined in quarter turn of the clock units than hours. They could last forever except someone has to go home or is exhausted. That sounds so ideal except somehow it's not. I'm just a guy who can talk for hours with strangers about all sorts of personal things. My dates are simple. We mostly just chat and maybe wander, often not even eating or drinking. Am I getting dehydrated? Is it equally intense for her? I've not exactly determined that but it could be. I can usually feel it in some way. I'm odd and often don't even hug at the end of a first date which I've been told can be offensive to the woman. I'll hug if she initiates not to be rude.
Sleep cannot come soon enough. Tomorrow will hopefully be more balanced. I was much too out of it to do something social tonight though perhaps I should have just to break out of my fog. Non-porn problems are nice to have even if they bring up an entirely alternate aspect of dopamine seeking. Somehow this dating style seems dopamine-seeking oriented and it isn't very satisfying to me and so I presume her.
I'm guessing that my response is typical because I'm getting overstimulated without touch to balance my neruochemistry. Multiple hours of eye contact and mental connection might be too much without touch. So more touch or maybe an intense post date workout routine is in order or both. Anything to dodge this bounciness in a healthier way.
I've perhaps noticed that this is worse when there is something making connection impossible (e.g., clearly were just hanging out and not interested in each other) or more difficult (e.g., some interest and some challenges that might not be readily overcome). It seems backwards. If the date is a dead end, why would my brain care more than if the date isn't a dead end? Maybe I've never experienced a not dead end date and that would be even worse in this regard.
What do we know about the neuroscience of courting?