Hello, me and my girlfriend often engage in sexual activity but because of her past circumstances she is very uncomfortable with having the phallus in vagina connection. The only sexual activity that we do is foreplay.
We are also both very familiar with sacred sexuality and most of our foreplay consists of stimulating each other, transmuting the energy up the chakra system to avoid too much "heat" and then going back into it. Despite how weird this sounds this is actually very successful; we get lots of enjoyment and we never have too much arousal, even though because of the fact that foreplay causes semen loss naturally I do end up losing quite a bit of seed and then I get that mental dopiness which comes with it, but its never enough to damage our love for each other...
I have two questions: How can I get her to engage in coitus and what are some tips on keeping away from that mechanical conveyor belt thought process that leads to orgasm? I have never had one with a partner in my life and I never want to because the risks of causing damage in my relationship with her is too much.
Thank you so much in advance, this site is so good for humanity.