This article is a bit dated. You may want to start with Your Brain On Porn, a sister-site that collects many of the experiences (and tips) of recovering and recovered visitors, related research and articles about porn and the brain.
Has the porn industry gotcha?
Many millions of dollars (or other currencies) were spent to trap you (or your loved one) in this escalating cycle. And many millions of years of evolution unwittingly made the trap possible. So there is nothing to feel guilty about.
Your situation is grave - and calls for a completely new and unfamiliar direction - but it is not as hopeless or 'unnatural' as you may believe. Links between sexual arousal and weird things (even dominance, violence, and perversion) are possible because of the neurochemicals our brains produce in response to things that are shocking, risky, guilt-producing, or pain-producing. For example, the common act of circumcision can link pain and victim fantasies to eroticism.
The fundamental problem is that, through a galactic oversight, you were turned loose in a physical body without the instruction manual for how your primitive brain operates. Here's a copy, so that you can resume command.
Instruction Manual for the Primitive Brain
- Lust and the Primitive Brain
- We're ALL Wired for Sexual Addiction
- Shock/Guilt + Erotic = Highly Addictive
- Muddy Angels
- The Realities of Withdrawal
NOTE for mates: You may want to visit "My Lover Is Hooked on Porn"