I had sex for the first time about a week and a half ago - just short of my 30th birthday. The guy im with is a really good guy. He treats me well and we laugh ALOT together.
yesterday he said " promise to me that if we stay together we will still go out on dates". That got my attention. I was like "uh yea!!" and then we hi fived each other. We like to make out in his car much more than in his house. While in his car yesterday I told him i don't want to create a reputation in my neighborhood for being the "get a room couple" . And I told him he should get his car windows tinted (for privacy); He found that so hilarious for some reason. he said that I hit him right in his funny bone when i said that to him . We both find each other pretty funny. He said he has been wanting to correct me for a long time on how i say "Espresso". I say "Expresso" instead. I told him that him correcting me was the Virgo in him. He said that its very "ME" to use astrology to analyze his behavior.
Sometimes I do have some feelings of ambiguity about him but im trying to just allow them to be and not let them be a deciding factor - I think its related on some level to attraction - what turns me on - But I try to remind myself that you cant be in a state of pure bliss 24 hours a day with someone your with.
I feel like it may take some time before the sex gets good. I guess you can say we have been practicing Karezza because neither of us have become overly aroused or come the couple of times we have been together. We have tried the scissors position but I dont think its his favorite.
He definitely has a conventional view of sex but he has been more or less open minded about the information I have shared with him on karezza and tantra
His conventional understanding of sex influences what he looks for - like he wants to be hard the entire time we are having intercourse. Ive tried to explain to him that he doesnt have to have an erection to be inside of me
I don't really feel very much on the overall in my vagina when he is inside me - even when he's thrusting . He really enjoys it but i just feel tight and there isn't much sensation.
another thing ill add is that he is in the mood to have sex more than I am. I feel like I can more easily go without having sex while he is usually ready to go. Like this morning He was really aroused while I was totally comfortable and cozy just laying there in bed with him. We did eventually have intercourse this morning, which I guess was fine. I feel somewhat indifferent/ apathetic about it.
any suggestions on how to proceed to make the sex better ?