I recently ended a 29 year relationship where as time went on the friction based sex got faster and faster and more unfulfilling. I would bring her to orgasm and then she would quickly arouse me...intercourse.. orgasm for me, out. PE set in over time and I even began losing my erection quickly. I left the bedroom and was celibate for the last 2.5 years and didn't even masturbate much during that time.
I have since studied Eastern philosophy and Tantra; both really resonate with me. Karezza is very much inline and this group seems very nourishing. I never got into porn but masturbated a reasonable amount over the years... mostly in the shower. I am single now and starting to date and I am finding that I need physical touch in order to get an erection (which I seem to loose rather quickly) but then the PE kicks in. both issues makes pleasurable intercourse difficult and sometimes impossible.
I would be interested in connecting with a male who has had similar experiences or a female who had a partner like me in the past. I believe that I need to slow down the love making process and regain the sensitivity in my privates to the point where I can get an erection through my thought and then learn to abstain from ejaculation. I eat clean foods, take supplements and am physically fit. No problem with nighttime and morning erections .... both of which are much firmer than when I am with a woman. Any perspective would be appreciated .... thanks!