About a year ago I decided to work with Taoist sexual methods, and part of that was semen retention. In the beginning I found it very hard to go without an ejaculation for more than a few days. It seemed like the itch became very strong at about day 4, and by day 5 it was driving me nuts and I had to release the tension. I had read that it takes 100 days without ejaculation to properly open the body's internal channels so I was very frustrated with my inability to go even one week. For a while I gave up on even trying.
In January of this year I decided to have another go at it. I had read that it is easier to conserve sexual energy in the winter. I was able to go 15 days which was a huge success for me. However, near the end of that cycle I was getting really hot. I would sweat for no reason and I felt somewhat manic all the time. I also had a huge case of blue balls. I decided to ejaculate and felt a huge rush of hot energy through my whole body when I did it. I looked at myself in the mirror and I was red like I had been running on a hot day or something. However, I felt like a million bucks ... for about one hour. Then I crashed hard. My eneregy levels bottomed out for a few days and it took longer than normal to get back to feeling good. That experience scared me and I decided to give up semen retention again for a while. However, in the back of my mind I was still thinking about it. I had not given up entirely.
Fast forward to April. One day there was some blood in my urine. I also had a burning sensation in the urethra. I told my wife and she said that I needed to get tested for a urinary tract infection. The results came back negative. Everything was good. However, the symptoms continued. I felt like I had to pee all the time. It was worse after drinking coffee or alcohol. I went back to get tested again. The results showed that there was no infection, but there was semen in the urine. They told me that was OK. It was normal for some semen to go into the bladder since the bladder is in the same "plumbing" network as the seminal vessels.
After that I started paying attention to my urine and I noticed that it looked quite different. It was always somewhat cloudy. Over time the burning sensation calmed down, but it never quite went away. Then there came a day where my whole urethra felt very sensitive like I was on the verge of an orgasm all day. I was at work and I was starting to wonder if I was going to have an involuntary ejaculation or something. It was bizzare. I went to the washroom to deal with it. I decided to void my bowels first. While I was sitting there I felt an odd sensation and a plop of fluid fell out of my penis into the toilet. It was semen. Not a lot of it. Just about a tea spoon. Then another plop came. After that, my urethra cleaned itself out and the sensations all went away.
I went back to my desk and did a Google search. I found some info on the AYP Tantra forums (Advanced Yoga Practices) about semen in the urine. The writer said that this was natural. As one advanced on the path of tantra more and more of the semen would be processed through the bladder rather than being ejaculated. I did some reading elsewhere and decided that this was how my body was going deal with the issue of semen build up.
After observing my body becoming more and more proficient at this for a few months, I recently decided to give semen retention another go. My wife and I had sex, then I did not ejaculate again until the next time we had sex (ten days later) and felt no real discomfort. The second time that we had sex I noticed that I had to remind myself to have an orgasm after she did. That has never happened before. Previously I was fighting to stay ahead of orgasm the whole time. This time the pressure was greatly reduced. Since then we have not had a chance to have sex, so I decided to just see how long this would go. I am at day 19 now with no real discomfort. Yesterday I felt hot and decided maybe I should ejaculate. I went to the batroom to do it, and my body refused to comply. I could not get an erection. It did not matter what I fantacized about, it was not interested in ejaculating. Shortly after that it released some semen into the bladder. I felt it happen. I went to the washroom and sure enough, a few dolops of semen came out in my urine. It was not nearly as much as I would have lost in an ejaculation, but the heat went away and has not come back. In fact, I felt very good for the rest of the day. No energy crash. I felt nice and balanced.
So, it seems that my body has taken over the responsibility for managing its own sexual energy and fluids. It releases what it needs to release when it needs to release it, and refuses to do any big dumps. I knew from my spiritual practices that the body has its own intelligence, but I never expected it to assert itself like that. Has anyone else experienced anything similar?
On a related note, over the past 19 days I have cuddled my wife a couple of times. In both cases I felt warm energy moving from me into her. After one of these energy movements I would feel her relax and sometimes she would sigh in a very contented way. Afterward she would be very affectionnate. It seems that I have evolved in some way that I have yet to fully understand.