I am actually new on this forum. I am learning so much about Karezza from everyone. Read the Cupid book and a variety of other related sources and I am finding so far that Karezza seems to make so much sense however I approach it. I am single, but I want to have a Karezza based relationship (among other preferences)--soon. I know this forum may be geared more toward partners who are exploring and living the Karezza approach, so I feel just a little out of place.
I have been practicing continence for exactly three weeks now and I am seeing a major difference in outlook and most mornings I wake up feeling better than I have felt in a very long time. I have noticed some days though I seem a little anxious and/or moody, but overall the shift feels very good. I am resolute about my shift, and I haven't felt a desire to fall back into the old paradigm. I have been using what one other individual on here referred to as solo tantra and finding that to work really well. I am actually much more equanimous now and much more in control of my emotional reactivity when I see it happening. Anyway, I am noticing a lot of positive things about my short period of continence and I feel fortunate that I am finally getting this sexuality thing figured out, for the most part, and careful not to become too prideful about it as well. It's not the first time I give something up. I went through years of recovery from substances of every kind so I know what it's like to let go of a drug. I have meditated for years and I have been involved with cultivating my inner world spiritually for many years.
Okay, here's the question. I am actively seeking to eventually become partnered, but I want to do this differently--not the way I did it in the past, conventionally. I am interested in learning from people on here who are partnered how it was for them initially, especially how it was for those (if there is anyone) who initiated their relationship on the basis of Karezza. I think it would be nice to hear about how things progressed from the first date on to where things are now, but especially how things have progressed in the very initial stages of developing a Karezza based relationship. I have been single too long and I am not getting any younger. So, before I get run over by a bus, or fall off the edge of a mountain, or just plain die of old age, I'd like to know how to move into the dating world without getting myself into too much trouble--if you know what I mean. I am aware of how to explain Karezza to a date or partner. I'm just looking to hear about how that was for people who did it, their experiences, reflections, anything. It would sure be appreciated. Thanks!