My H and I are trying to heal through learning karezza. H is recovering PA. He's very keen on going down the karezza route as am I. We've read that once you get to grips with it some couples allow themselves to O twice a month. If we eventually did do this do we have to leave behind all that may have been once connected to that way? Eg I liked to dress up on occasion (bedroom dress up) I wouldn't feel 'safe' doing this right now due to finding out about his PA. I'm unsure if I ever should again in case it triggers him (scared to ask so haven't yet). Also unsure if it's a nono with regards to karezza?
I'm thinking ahead ..not now.
I know from reading other posts that eventually we both may not even want to bother with O at all. H hasn't O'd in maybe close to a month. I've had the odd unexpected one during karezza that perhaps got too heated but not stimulation.
The past two days I've felt very low about his PA and so we've only talked and cuddled clothed.
Any thoughts appreciated?