I'm having a hard time staying away from orgasm. I'm not using PMO anymore, although I'm having a very difficult time staying away from that too. My wife and I have great sex, always have. Never had that problem. Never has it felt dull or habituated. But the aftereffects have always stunk. I've never once not felt a passion cycle, and after understanding what it's like to be on the other side of one I would really like to learn how to stabilize it. I've tried karezza intercourse but it always leads me back to the genetic promise land.
My question to everyone is this: putting esoteric teachings aside, what can we do to settle down as human beings who choose not to persue sexual gratification through intercourse and/or orgasm? What can we do, both as individuals and as couples, to support a bonding-based celibate lifestyle?