So my wife and I have practiced Karezza on and off for about 7 years, during which time I have also refrained from pornography and masturbation (more or less :)). For the most part, avoiding orgasm has been a key part of my sex life and I have benefited immensely from the practice. Life changing, as many of you know.
Recently, my wife and I opened our marriage and we are both having sex with new partners and I am having some serious PE issues! Part of it is definitely the novelty of a new partner for the first time in 9 years, part of it is springtime, but I cannot relax during sex with my new girlfriend. It is ridiculously passionate and intense. I really WANT to relax and start a slow sex practice with her but it is just not happening. And yeah, an annoying amount of the time I will orgasm almost immediately when we start having sex, sometimes before penetration.
Fortunately, she is awesome about all of this, very supportive and loving and perfectly happy to just slow down and enjoy any kind of intimacy. I have been consciously trying to relax lately but the more I relax the more I orgasm. I'm hoping you guys can give me some feedback. On the one hand, I feel like I am a little "backed up" from refraining from orgasm for so long (all during my 20's when my energy is still full blast) and it's all coming out of me or something. There is certainly a very healthy feeling from it, like I'm getting cleared out. But it's not sustainable and I know that the time is coming soon when the honeymoon is going to slow down with my new partner and I want to establish a deeper sex practice. But I just can't seem to do it! Any advice?