Karezza seems like an expanded balloon to me. You can pressure it up to a certain level and play with it, but the trick is, don’t over blow and don’t release. Then it can become a marvelous dance that has no real definable limits, except perhaps, not to reach orgasm. It just goes on and on, a beautiful joyous communion until you want to get up and do something else. I was thinking about this balloon metaphor the other day and started laughing uncontrollably. My love and I are stunned at how the simplest, playful joy, cuddling, kissing, snuggling naked can be so liberating and nurturing to the deepest core.
So often in the past we thought that there must be a formula, a method to learn. But there isn’t, it’s just a rise and flow of effortless motion, softness, tingling arousal and focused attention locked on one another. Once there is no goal to get to a release, it just becomes gentle touch and affection. It has become the center of our life together, resting in this quiet space where our loving feelings just wash over one another. I've practiced Vipasanna (breath meditation) and Biogenic meditation for years, and yet nothing has brought me a sense of mindful attention on the Now moment like this has.
So often, we have thought there should be a definitive, poetic document describing Karezza for those of us who have had trouble breaking out of the conventional sex mindset. Yet, every time we try to write it comes out sounding dry, dull and boring. Perhaps, Karezza is a whole new level of Being, a way that goes beyond "talking" and one can only point the way. Anyway, I’m finishing up “Karezza Explored,” an article Darryl, Rachel and I have worked on together, a follow-up to "Karezza in Four Easy steps.". There are some Newbie’s reading it now to offer some points for clarification. So I will get it to the site as soon as I can.
I'd love to see the day when this kind of sexual bonding is common and out in the open.