I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost a year.
The relationship was quite challenging for a number of months -- we would argue and I would often feel irritated with her. The arguments were frequent and the relationship was up and down like a rollarcoaster. It could shift in an instant into unhappiness and conflict. Overall, I was unhappy. I started to realized I was experiencing this strange general resistance towards my girlfriend that I couldn't put words to and out of that energy field arose irritation, impatience, and basically cold feelings towards her. Ioften felt like she was a 'stranger'.
About two months ago, I was reintroduced to reuniting.info by a friend. I remembered my experiences with karezza in a relationship I was in a couple of years ago and how powerful those experiences were. I'd almost forgotton about it all.
I decided to stop having orgasm, and reintroduced myself to the concepts presented here on reuniting, regarding the limbic system and other parts of the brain. It was fascinating to me to go through these concepts again and see how they seemed to be true in my direct experience. In particular, perhaps these were answers to the general resistance that I couldn't put words to.
In the first month, nothing seemed to change. However, since about the fourth week of no orgasm and practicing karezza with my girlfriend, I've experienced increasingly loving and warm and safe and close feelings with my girlfriend. It's really refreshing and I know that this is the feeling I want with the woman I choose to be with. Seems that these are the effects of more oxytocin and less dopamine surges in the limbic system. It is fascining to me how it took about a month to start changing, indicating that it takes around that time for the brain to 'reset'.
Currently, I still am attracted to novel women and notice that it is the *novelty* of the prospect of a experiencing a novel woman that the ego within is attracted to.
In a way, it feels like the brain gets mini-dopamine kicks simply by *looking* at the body of a new woman. It requries focus and concentration to stop myself from looking at the body's of other women. I am wondering if this might change... have the men who have been practicing karezza find that this changes? Will these mini 'kicks' ever go away? Or will they change quality somehow? Perhaps this is something to simply be accepted as a part of being a human male. Or maybe it changes with age also... (currently I'm 27).
Grateful to share again!