Masturbated daily for 30 years - now on Day 44 of Complete abstinence

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I am a 44 year-old male who discovered masturbation at the age of 12 or 13 and did it almost daily ever since. It has affected my life in many ways over the years and it was only recently that I realized what a profound case of NO sex drive I had developed. A beautiful girl could strip in front of me and I would not become aroused. I am currently on TRT and my hormone levels are very good but my libido just never returned.

My wife and I have had no intimacy for years, and we both accepted it. It was only in the past few weeks that I determined my daily habit might be problematic :) and quit cold turkey on February 7, 2014. Now on Day 44, I am flatlined but have noticed some nice erotic dreams the past few nights. Until now, it has been 15+ years since I actually had a sexual dream in which I awoke erect. It feels pretty good.

Yesterday, for the first time in years, I felt a brief moment of spontaneous horniness at the sight of a beautiful woman. Imagine that - feelings of desire at the mere sight of a woman! It sounds crazy but to me it is progress!

Anyway, I have been flatlined since about day 5 or 6, and only awake with a erection once or twice per week. My lady and I have intimate time where we kiss and touch each other, but nothing beyond that! I am determined to stick to my plan.

thank you guys for this amazingly supportive forum!

Also, I have begun taking

Also, I have begun taking Horny Goat weed and Maca a few days per week and they seem to help. Would you guys recommend anything different or advise against this? Any advice will be appreciated.

Congratulations, JohnQ, and

Congratulations, JohnQ, and best wishes on your journey! I am glad that your body is rewiring, and I am positive that you will be thrilled with the ultimate results as you stay the course.

With complete abstinence from P/M/O (except for accidents during intercourse), I saw return to normal physiology at two months, and greatly enhanced ejaculation control at four months.

Keep up the good work, JohnQ!

Congratulations on the signs of life

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But time and regular close contact seems to be the biggest help for most guys. If you notice a big drop off after your first ejaculation, then you may want to explore karezza for a while until your brain if fully back in balance. Karezza is for addicts (too)