After having tried Karezza a couple times, I decided that I would really like to back things up and try the exchanges, since things were getting a little hot and heavy from my partner's side. He agreed, we got the book and we're trying them out. Mostly things have been going well, but he has a hard time understanding and feeling comfortable with the idea of energy manipulation. He is an athiest, and was convinced there was nothing more to life until we did the excercise from this website where you feel the energy between your hands. That really freaked him out! Now when the directions say something like "send calming waves" I can just feel his uncomfortableness. He says he's trying to just pretend or visualize it, but he doesn't feel anything and he thinks it's kind of stupid. I told him I could feel it when he wasn't just feeling, when he was too in his head thinking about how dumb it was. He is a recovering addict, and in our conversations, I've figured out that he does not truly understand what intimacy means. Describing it gets me a blank stare. Don't get me wrong, there has definitely been progress and breakthroughs, I'm just not sure what advice to offer him about things outside of his comfort zone.