So yesterday my wife and I were taking advantage of one of those rare, narrow windows when our baby is asleep and neither of us is completely exhausted. We have been focusing on going very, very slow lately, really for the sake of me learning to relax out tensions that remain. So after laying together naked for a while, we ended up both sitting up, cross-legged, rubbing each others backs, etc. She reached for the coconut oil (the only lube we use these days) but I said "not yet". So I lay down and she took the top position and we continued doing the touching/stroking thing. After a while I said "ok oil me up", which I didn't mean as "let's start intercourse" but rather "you can start touching my penis now, that would be nice". Well, I should have been more specific because she just slipped me right in and I was not prepared. It was stimulation overload and I said "STOP STOP STOP", she stopped; somehow I managed to avoid orgasm. But what happened instead was very strange. Any time I have been that close in the past, I have gone over. But maybe because I've worked so much on relaxing lately and haven't orgasmed in a good while and was DETERMINED not to, I managed to stop it.
Anyways, what happened was that as I put 100% of my attention on relaxing my lower regions to stop the orgasm, I felt this flush of tingly energy erupt, starting at the bottom of my ribcage and expanding up and into my arms, all the way to my fingers. It's as though the orgasm just shot up into my upper body. The tingling in my hands was very cool, and I proceeded to spend the rest of our session stroking her body with my electric fingertips. The tingly, relaxed sensation in my upper body persisted for the rest of the day and I felt really good, mind body and spirit. My heart was buzzing and I felt very connected to her.
We have been on the karezza road for about 4 years now (on and off but ever onward) and I have never experienced anything like this. Am I closing in on the elusive internal climax/ valley orgasm /whatever? Anyone else experience this? Any tips on how to repeat it? I just can't imagine that I could do that trick again.... I mean get that close and not orgasm.