Greetings commnity -
I'm relative new to exploring less ejaculation / orgasms as part of my love making, and having some success and lots of learning. I'd be interested in insights about getting this to work in my marriage.
I've been exploring for about six months and am at about 2 orgasms a month for the last 2 months. I love the energy, increased focus on the whole body, unplugging from 'goal' in sex, and the lack of frequent 'let down'.
But there have been two challenges coordinating this with my wife. Firstly, since this is my idea it seems to her in some ways like I am 'with holding' from her by not orgasming. We've talked about this and it's got better, but still I want to manage to move the agenda to being me still being 100% engaged in our sex in her eyes. Secondly, and obviously related, she comes most easily when she rides me on top, and not suprisingly it's hard for me to not orgasm when I haven't for a few days from that much physical / sensual stimulation.
Implication of course is that she is not exploring limiting her orgasms. I don't want to make that my agenda - partly that would really seem like withholding to her right now, partly I love her orgasms, and partly they have always been elusive and infrequent - actually limiting me seems to have increased hers to almost one a week which is quite a lot more frequent.
Anyway, interested in others advice / experience...