I've fought the idea of online dating during the reboot process for a few reasons:
1. I want to meet women in the real world
2. The process of online dating is pretty similar to P use - a gallery of images where you choose the most appealing one
3. I used online dating (somewhat successfully) last year and it ended it not-so-great breakups
4. It's a huge blow to the ego (more on this later)
This week, currently in week 6 of no PMO, I've been coming out of flatline. The P cravings are back and there's a antsiness that has set in. I'm feeling extremely anxious and I'm stuck with no romantic prospects to even talk to. So I signed up for online dating again - trying out a different, free site than last year.
I'm sure online dating experiences vary for you guys, but for me, it's mostly been a kick in the nuts. You see, I must think I'm better looking than I actually am. Or I'm approaching women that are out of my league. Either way, last year, out of 100 (personalized) emails sent, I only had 5 or so women reply. [Sidenote: I ended up dating two of those women last year for an extended period, 2+ months each. Each of them just ended up moving faster than I was ready to and it ended where I'm no longer on speaking terms with either.] It might be a pretty standard experience for most. Hell, the statistics might even be on the high end of the spectrum. For me, it definitely shakes my confidence. That's not something I really need at this point in the reboot. But it seems online dating might be my only real avenue to meet someone. Friends of friends options have all been exhausted, I don't really have a 'wingman' to go out with, and none of my exes will talk to me.
So imagine my surprise when an incredibly beautiful woman actually responds to one of my emails (within minutes of my sending it). I've only been on the site a few hours so I've got a pretty bare bones profile. I also didn't dwell on the photos I posted and just chose a few I felt I looked OK in. Out of all the women I emailed today, she was by far the most attractive and she was the only one to respond. I can't stress enough how beautiful she is. I mean, she is the spitting image of Megan Fox (with a better body). So obviously, the only reasonable explanation is she's a fake. She is easily out of my league. If it seems to good to be true... And yet, my experience from online dating last year tells me she seems pretty real. And her responses (plural!) to my emails seemed pretty genuine. So I did the only thing I could think to do. Play it cool with one line or one word answers (I'm too cool to express emotion), and make sure I was the first to leave the conversation (I'm a busy man, after all). And so the conversation ended and I'll stay offline for a day or two before I email her again. Worst case scenario, I believe she's real and I have a little more incentive to workout harder this week. Best case scenario, she cooks like a chef, is richer than Romney, and wants to have like a thousand of my babies.