Well, first off I'm delighted to have recently found this website! (thanks for making it!). It's been now over two weeks since I had an ejaculation and I'm feeling fantastic so far! I'm very excited about these new ideas..
Now onto my very long post/ question:
I’ve masturbated on average a few times a week via vigorous stimulation to ejaculation since about age 14 (less when I've had a girlfriend but sometimes in addition to regular intercourse). Gradually over the years the experience has become less pleasurable, the sensation has become more localized and generally I’ve felt worse and worse afterward (more tired, headachy, disinterested) as I’ve gotten older (indeed in the fairly recent past I often masturbated purely as a means of getting to sleep).
Now since about three years ago I’ve been doing a lot of personal growth work and counseling, and about two years ago I stumbled upon quite an entirely different experience (an experience that I am slowly becoming more and more able to repeat).
It first occurred while I was lying in bed thinking/ feeling erotic things and fantasies and just lying quite still and relaxed and holding my erection as opposed to moving my hand over it. Then I began to feel a strange but extremely pleasurable detached kind of sensation (beginning in my penis but spreading over my body). It first felt as if my erection was made of wood (numb and solid perhaps?) and was reaching far out from my body (as if I were holding it a few feet above my stomach). Then quite suddenly the strangest and most pleasurable hot wavy melting sensation flooded all over me. My heart rate increased considerably (I could feel a hot pounding pleasurably in my chest and neck) and a deep warmth spread right up over my chest. My initial reaction was that I remembered similar sensations from pleasurable childhood dreams, and then I thought ‘WOW!! So this must be what an ‘Orgasm’ is!!
I’ve heard people describe orgasm as a feeling of waves flowing through the body, and to be honest this is about the closest I could come to describing this sensation (it’s not at all like the localized bursting/ pushing / expelling feeling of ejaculation which personally feels nothing at all like ‘waves’ to me).
However this is entirely separate from ejaculation and after experiencing it I don’t even usually feel any pressure on my prostate at all (and if so, usually only because I happened to come vaguely close to the ordinary ejaculation/ spasm ‘orgasm’ beforehand).
The other thing I notice is that afterward I don’t at all feel empty, tired or disinterested as I do after ejaculation. In fact I actually feel quite energized and alive!
I’ve yet to be able to experience this while having intercourse (I think because I’m unable to relax enough) and I usually just have to be careful to avoid getting anywhere close to ejaculation, and afterward I DO feel quite a bit of pressure on my prostate (even if I managed to stay fairly well away from ejaculation).
The other thing I’ve discovered is that it is possible to have a very similar kind of non-ejaculatory ‘orgasm’ via direct stimulation of my glans (rubbing it against a soft cloth or sheet, or once even from my girlfriend touching it). This sometimes results in a similar non-localised ‘detached’ pleasurable sensation, hot feeling in my chest, rapid heartrate and deep melting wavy sensation.
I’ve found that this ‘orgasm’ gradually fades away of its own accord (after probably lasting a minute or two) and it is quite separate from ejaculation in that I feel no urge to thrust or stimulate myself towards ejaculation throughout the experience (as I do when approaching normal ejaculatory orgasm) and certainly no restraint or effort is required on my part to ‘hold off’ from ejaculating by pushing down on my prostate or contracting my pc muscle or anything (as I feel no urge to ejaculate whatsoever).
So what is this sensation? I’ve read nothing anywhere on the net that comes close to describing it (am I an anomaly?). And clearly it’s nothing at all like those ‘whole body multiple orgasms’ I’ve read about on tantra websites which are supposedly attainable via controlling and holding off ejaculation for extended periods of time and playing around the point of ejaculation (as ejaculation isn’t even in the picture during these 'orgasms').
Have any other men experienced anything similar?
So is this new kind of ‘orgasm’ (insofar as anyone here may have any idea what is going on inside my body!) something to be avoided? (in terms of the themes and the science on this website). It is definitely a pleasurable experience, but I’ve yet to notice the same kind of ‘down’ that I get after the usual spasm/ ejaculation orgasm.
I look forward to any replies!