This is a question that I have for Marnia that I would like to ask here because I think that other readers must be wondering the same thing.
Marnia, in your nine minute video on YouTube, you say that we need to seriously consider the sexual practices prescribed by the ancient Chinese and Indian sages, et al.
I have read several books on the subject of Taoist sexuality and Tantra, including "The Multiorgasmic Man" and "Tantric Secrets for Men". I have found that the advice in these books has not been able to help me in any way. They encourage you to practice squeezing the PC muscle, among other things, to hold back ejaculation; and I mean that literally: "hold back ejaculation". First of all, I have never been able to do this effectively, certainly not for a lack of trying. Second, the authors of these books are still totally focused on orgasm, thus the name of the book, "The Multiorgasmic Man"! They do talk about a transcendent experience, but they encourage you to seek to experience the orgasm without ejaculating, suggesting that the loss of semen is harmful to men.
Marnia, you clearly not only advocate avoiding ejaculation, you advocate avoiding all orgasm, at least in the conventional sense. I don't believe that you have ever recommended using the PC muscle to "hold back" ejaculation.
The sexual practices prescribed by the ancient Chinese and Indian sages, as I understand them to be, seem to be completely different from what you recommend, as they appear to be centered around orgasm.
Therefore, I must suffer from a complete misunderstanding of what it is that the ancients prescribed that you agree with. What recommendation of the ancients do you agree with?