excuse me if there are any blunders in this posting. it is my very first one so i haven't been able to negotiate the site & its protocols yet. however may i say what a relief it was to find such a forum full of people willing to contribute to the knowledge pool of such the 'sticky' subject (excuse the pun) of sexuality & intimacy.
i fear i have many questions to ask (and hopefully perspectives & experiences to offer) but will limit my first one or two to this:
i am a male.
can someone explain to me the differences in the approaches mentioned here. i seem to be receiving mixed messages.
on the one hand there are discussions concerning the practice of avoiding the orgasm (from what i understand) due to its function in the reproductive sex act and its associated feelings of dopamine come down & restlessness.
however constantly referred to in this narrative (and web site) is the practice of tantric/gnostic/chinese (etc) practices. from what i understand are not the latter practices mainly concerned with not avoiding orgasm per se, but in actually climaxing but without (male) ejaculation?
if this assertion is correct (which of course i may be wrong in this so please correct me) does not the tantric view hold that it is actual ejaculation that has the draining & distancing effect and NOT the dopamine come down.
and do orgasms in a woman over time really reduce their feelings of closeness to a man as well?
in my experience it seems to bond them more, while having the opposite effect in me ( a male).
or has this all been stated somewhere or i am missing an obvious answer?
any help, clarity or perspective would be much appreciated.