When Kat and I first got romantically and physically involved (Kat being the girl I've been seeing here at school), I was withholding orgasm for myself, and let her choose for herself wheter or not to have them.
after a few weeks of that, I eventually lost control of myself, and had my first orgasm in over 2 months. Since my voluntary abstinence was breeched, we continued seeking orgasm for about a week. that was when it all fell apart. Knowing what i've learned from this site, i tried to not let my frustration and sudden annoyance with Kat get to me. We were both pretty shrewd to eachother. I said that i needed to abstain, and suggested we do that together. She was open to it.
I had Marnia email me the exchanges and began reading through them, but when I brought it up to Kat, she didn't like the idea. I think the idea of starting a "program" wasn't very exciting to her. There are a number of different people here who seem to want the exchanges, but run into this block.
How can this be avoided?